When the man falls in love, he stays in a condition of happiness. He is hungry less, to sleep less, just there is a wish to soar above the ground. And the most important desire – to spend with a love object much time.
With what women fall in love
Why the man fell in love with one, but not with other woman, it is impossible to understand. If to speak about love from which "a butterfly in a stomach", and the whole world plays bright paints the heart fights more often, and thoughts develop verses. Theoretically, this feeling arises when the man at the subconscious level catches reciprocity and prospect to be the shrouded attention.
Love is not love yet. Love is similar to drug intoxication when the man does not notice any shortcomings at all. For it each line, each movement of the beloved seems ideal. It is the first stage through which there go the relations with a view to the future. It happens not at all and not always. Usually say that it "love at first sight". Much more often love comes absolutely in a different way. It is other process when love for something, but not under the influence of unclear what factors.
Love stages
In total psychologists define 8 stages of development of the relations after the first acquaintance.
At first the man estimates appearance. Watches whether it approaches under certain, only to him a suitable type. Sometimes happens that blondes with blue eyes, and here the brunette were always pleasant, but she definitely is pleasant. Anyway, first of all the man sees a wrapper. And already then makes the decision whether it is worth opening inner world of this wonderful creation.
If the woman interested him, there is the following step – intention to enter the relations. What it will be the relations, depends on the woman's level. With someone there is a wish to start a family and to raise grandsons, and with someone sex on the first appointment suffices forever to lose interest.
When the decision on the beginning of the relations is made, the inclination appears. At this stage the man beautifully looks after, tries to develop communication to be pleasant. It will do everything that the woman answered with mutual interest. He will call, write, be interested, how are you doing. All his thoughts are occupied by the pleasant lady.
Further the heavy artillery is used. The man will make everything to make an impression and to be the center of attention.
When the woman gradually begins to open, he watches, whether precisely a right choice. But is guided more by feelings, but not by common sense. Having understood that the inclination only amplifies, it does everything to sweetheart the woman. When the sympathy becomes mutual, attempts to win the ladylove continue.
Meetings become more often, and the man already begins to think of continuation of the relations. About family. Allocates shortcomings and advantages of marriage with this woman. However, rationally he is not capable to estimate yet as love eclipses eyes, and the darling did not show all the shortcomings yet. If to marry by cold calculation, then it is necessary to marry shortcomings. Because with some it is possible to be reconciled, and with some it is impossible. And if one treats a constant disorder calmly, then another will not be able to live with it. As a result there will be constant quarrels which will lead to a divorce.
At the next stage the man is convinced, whether mutually his desire to legalize the union.
And if desire is mutual, partners already begin to look at each other not just as at object of desire, and as at the dearest and loved one. It is known that the husband and the wife have a zero degree of relationship. If to address the Bible, there it is said that two will become one flesh.
When the man is ready to take the responsibility for the woman and to start a family is and there is the last stage love with which the way to true love long in life begins.
Feelings and behavior in the period of love
The woman is emotional, the man is more reserved. Therefore too strong emotional component should not wait.
But, as it was precisely noticed in the book by Agatha Christie "The mystery of the blue train", Muzhchina when pretends that he fallen in love, tries to be cheerful, gallant, to pay all attention. But if it fallen in love really, it is similar to a sheep. Perhaps, indeed. The behavior changes. The successful, purposeful man turns into soft and pliable. When there is no darling nearby, nothing is interesting to him. He zerkalit gestures and behavior of the darling.