There passes some time after the wedding, and the passion in the relations of spouses is replaced by a habit. Often those qualities which were imperceptible in the partner in the period of love become the reason of discontent and irritation.
When two enter the matrimonial relations and are going to live long and happy life under the same roof, each of them already has the settled habits. If at the initial stage of the relation did not develop on the basis of understanding and reciprocal concessions, further cloudless existence of family can appear under the threat. At the slightest pretext the irritation caused by things untidy in time or the phrase told not by that tone begins to appear. Together with it there is a fear that the love leaves, and it will be already impossible to return former warmth and tenderness to family.
Even if the husband began to cause very strong irritation and thoughts of a divorce began to come to mind, you should not hurry with decision-making, without having dealt finally with the feelings.
Before drawing such sad conclusions, it is necessary to understand that really happens in family life to the husband. Even if its voice and behavior cannot be perceived quietly, perhaps, the reason of it was some unexpressed offense which left an unpleasant deposit in soul and now does not allow the relations to be same sincere and close as earlier. The informal conversation will help to understand a situation, will remove weight from soul and, most likely, the irritation will leave by itself.
Happens that the collected fatigue from work and infinite household chores lead to constant irritation, and this feeling is shown in the attitude towards the spouse. When the woman instead of the help and support finds the husband in a chair in front of the TV and remembers weight outstanding to them promises, it is easy to understand its reaction. In this situation the stream of reproaches and claims will only aggravate a situation. If in family there is a main thing - the strong feeling connecting spouses, the wise woman will always find a way tactfully and unostentatiously to operate the man and to achieve from it necessary actions.
Men often do not show an initiative in assistance. It is easier for them to satisfy a concrete request, than to guess independently what from them is required.
Family life is the best of all it develops in families where the husband and the wife are completely frank with each other. Absolutely ideal people are not and when the discontent or offense are discussed at once, but do not ripen at heart for months, there is also no irritation which is generated by generally hidden deep conflicts. Straight talk can show that to all incorrectly understood phrase or incorrect tone in a conversation was fault, and everything can end with playful reconciliation and will erase all memories of former aggression. If the situation is so heavy and started that it is not possible to cope with it independently, can be it is worth asking for the help the expert. The qualified psychologist will establish the reasons of constant irritation and will prompt ways by means of which it is possible to cope with this situation. But before it it is better to analyze independently the behavior to understand whether only the husband is guilty of the attitude changed towards it. Perhaps, it is worth treating himself self-critically and to look for events sources in the depth of own soul.