Often it happens that couple quarrels and the man does not find other arguments, except a fist. What reasons of family violence? What to do to the woman and how to endure humiliation?
Instruction
1. Such is people's psychology if the man dared to hit the woman, he will make it again and again. At first will be ""excuse"", then ""itself it is guilty"". From recognition of the man divorced: ""When I for the first time hit the wife, I ceased to perceive her as the woman, ceased to respect her."" History lasted for years until the woman decided on a divorce. It was succeeded to interrupt only with such radical way series of humiliations and mockeries.
2. You should not suffer a beating and to hope that the man will improve that more it will not repeat. There are two options: to keep family or to leave. The second option is acceptable not for all and not always. There is a set of the reasons for which as the woman thinks, she is forced to suffer a beating. For example, demoralization of the woman against the background of complete financial dependence from the husband, presence of children who are attached to the father and for whom the divorce of parents can become a trauma, lack of support from relatives and so on. Thus, the woman tries to keep family in spite of the fact that situation it in this family with time worsens.
3. It is known that both, as a rule, are guilty of any situation which occurs in family, is not present one responsible, both the husband, and the wife. If couple in general safe if spouses can quietly discuss the situation of things out of a quarrel if both are ready not only for preservation of family, but also for improvement of quality of relationship, harmonization of the joint life, they can try to analyze the quarrels, to find the reasons of domestic violence in the family. The competent family psychologist can help couple.
4. Most often the inferiority complex, diffidence is the reason of aggressive behavior of the husband in relation to the wife. It can be shown in those families where the woman is more formed, earns more or tries to resolve all issues independently, without involving in adoption of family decisions of the husband. It causes desire to tower, show the superiority, and to make it in the man he is capable only having shown the physical force, roughness, having humiliated the woman with manhandling.
5. The psychological trauma got by him in the childhood can become the reason of the underestimated self-assessment of the man. For example, the boy was brought up by lonely mother who often applied physical punishments in the educational purposes, was imperious and demanded from the son of full submission.
6. Constant humiliations, insults and quarrels become the reason that the woman begins to feel helpless, to believe that it is necessary to nobody. Such women are given by stoop, a heavy guilty look, unwillingness to watch itself and as they ""blossom"" after a rupture of these painful relations.
7. What to do to the woman if she fell a victim of family violence and, nevertheless, wants to keep family? It is important to feel attractive, to be pleasant to itself, to find to itself occupation as a hobby, perhaps, some side job to stop being completely dependent on the husband financially. It is possible to begin with small: to change hair color, a hairstyle, to buy a new dress. Farther it is more: to register in a master class in dances, drawing, a molding or any other art form, to get a habit to meet regularly girlfriends and to spend time in communication and so on.