According to the explanatory dictionary by Ushakov, the jealousy is "passionate distrustfulness, painful doubt in someone's fidelity, in love, in full devotion". In spite of the fact that this feeling is associated often with love, the jealousy does not strengthen the relation, and, on the contrary, destroys them.
To get rid of jealousy, it is worth realizing why and because of what you have doubts in fidelity of darling. Psychologists allocate several reasons of emergence of jealousy. Treat them: fear of loneliness, low self-assessment, emotional dependence on darling, obsession with the relations and egoism. Also those who were already deceived once suffer from this destructive feeling, to restore trust much more difficult, than to lose it.
The following step — office of the actual reasons for jealousy from imagined. Execute simple exercise: draw a vertical line in the middle of the sheet of paper, in the first of the turned-out columns write out real "misses" of the partner, in the second — your assumptions and suspicions. Most likely, the last list will be much more volume, and records in the first column will be limited to one-two lines. Every time resort to this method when you feel that doubts in feelings of the beloved cover you with the head. Constant experiences can lead not only to cooling of the relations and frequent quarrels, but affect negatively your health, having poured out in neurosises, sleep disorders, a depression.
One of widespread female mistakes - "to be dissolved" in the relations. If you forgot about the best friends, threw a favourite hobby and with enthusiasm began to equip a family nest, then it is no wonder that you expect the same devotion also from the man. However men are suited a little differently. For them it is important to keep the right for private life. You should not reproach the desire loved in absence to carry out every minute near you and also to draw in the head of a scene of treason when it is late from work. Take care of the own life! Update clothes, sign up for foreign language courses, buy the subscription in gym. Remember the hobbies: maybe it is worth dovyazat a remarkable sweater which grieves one and a half years in a case? The active, vigorous woman is much more interesting to the man, than the boring stay-at-home wishing to catch him in the full order.