Not all couples after the wedding begin to live separately from parents. Sometimes two generations should get on in one apartment, and in this case quite often there are skirmishes and quarrels. It is important to learn mutual understanding, then all can live happily together.
Define rules
First of all it is necessary to choose parents with whom you will live. Discuss this issue and in common make the decision. One of spouses can inconveniently feel in others apartment. Estimate the number of the rooms living your relations with them to pick up an optimal variant. For example, if 6 people already live in the three-room apartment, and in two-room there live only parents, it should be taken into accountit should be taken into account the second option. But if someone from newlyweds does not get on with mother and the father of another, it is better not to move to them.
Find out about rules and customs of accommodation in this apartment. Owners of a living space, as a rule, parents, so they will also establish the main requirements. Your young family is visiting, and it is necessary to live under their laws. It is possible to try to reach compromise if something gives you an inconvenience, but the conversation has to take place peacefully and without excess reproaches.
Divide obligations for the house that there were no "two hostesses in one kitchen". For example, you prepare on all family members, and your mother-in-law does the cleaning. Do not take and do not shift all affairs to one person. Do not forget to support parents. Pay a part of a rent, buy products, develop on major appliances. You started a family, and have to arrive in an adult way, but not mount upon a neck to mother and the father.
Define borders
You should not forget that you are already adults, and have to make decisions independently. Defend the opinion in important vital questions, but it is not rough. Do not allow to interfere with your family relations not to spoil the relation with the spouse. Raise the children independently. The grandmother and the grandfather can communicate with grandsons, spend time with them and at own will watch them. Let know that you have the educational system, tell them about its rules and explain all questions. Ask to adhere to your technique and not to recede from it. Parents can give advice, argue and try to impart the education, but you need to stand on the position accurately. Do not feel the victim or the parasite in family of the spouse. The mother-in-law can sometimes reproach and belittle the daughter-in-law, trying to set by the ears spouses. Learn to defend the position firmly, but without aggression. You are a lawful wife of her son, and can be together with the husband here. If the situation does not suit her, let at the general meeting we will directly tell about it. If at you it is impossible to live happily with parents, use the best efforts to begin to live separately.