All children are born egoists, this inherited quality can be compared to an animal instinct, and all animals are egoists. However, if people perceive laws of the nature naturally, then the human egoism is blamed by society rather, than welcomed. So who such egoist we will also tell in our article.
What does the egoist mean?
It is about the person who puts the interests above others, plans actions only in terms of obtaining own benefit and advantage. The term appeared in the 18th century when the French thinkers created the theory of reasonable egoism assuming that well understood own interests act as a basis of morals. The Soviet geneticist V.P. Efroimson believed that such trait of character is transferred at the genetic level, people during existence and natural selection acted in a sheaf, that is pursued one common goal.
Reasons and signs of egoism
Of course, this excessive attention to the child and indulge in the childhood when all surrounding people indulge him to each whim. As a result the child grows in the atmosphere of permissiveness, there is no education per se and nobody explains to the kid that it is good and that it is bad. He knows only one word – give and gets used to receive, without giving anything in exchange.
Signs of the egoist:
- Arrogance, boasting, confidence in the infallibility.
- Feeling of own exclusiveness and importance.
- Individualism, unwillingness to be responsible for itself and close people. Very much often such signs are observed at the male egoist, but also women are subject to them not less.
- Intolerance to mistakes and shortcomings of others, desire someone for something to teach a good lesson and reserve the last word.
- Sarcasm, cynicism and roughness. Neglect standards of moral and ethics.
- Attraction to of attention, sensitivity, inability to forgive.
Actually such people can be regretted. Professing feeling of own exclusiveness, they are seldom happy. Concentrated on own person, they too care that they will tell others about them and quite often get under someone's influence. They suspiciously treat people, do not wish to be grateful and just do not understand, their importance is how illusory. An extreme case of egoism is the egocentrism when the person considers himself by center of the universe and only and does that speaks about itself. He believes that all have to be happy only from that, he is in their life and exists on light.
Contrast to the egoist
Contrast to the egoist is the altruist. This is the self-sacrificing person who for the sake of general welfare sacrifices the benefit and advantage. It is no secret that utopians dreamed of it and such approach to human society was professed by Bolsheviks. However, as practice shows, the extreme is harmful what it would not concern. Therefore it is very important to observe golden mean, reasonably renouncing own interests for the sake of others.
How to stop being the egoist?
- The best medicine against this evil is care of others. If the person sees that someone needs the help, you should not pass by. Good deeds spiritually enrich, the main thing is to make them sincerely and disinterestedly.
- It is necessary to study not speak, but also to listen. Egoists, both men, and the woman, most often interrupt the interlocutor, speak only about themselves. But the person needs to give too the chance to express.
- Before condemning the person, it is necessary to try to put himself on his place and to understand motives of its acts. It is necessary to remember that perfect people are not, all are mistaken, and having learned to forgive, it is possible to hope for the same attitude towards himself from others.