Dad has to be a support, support, but in the modern world of the man do not pay sufficient attention to issues of education. The more the abyss between the father and the daughter, the will be more difficult to construct further to the girl the harmonious relations with men.
There is a huge number of myths of rather men's education. If the girl, dad – the first man whom it faces grows in family. Depends on him what husband will be chosen to herself by the girl in the future as she treats herself. If dad admires mental capacities and beauty of the daughter, then she will begin to consider herself the clear head and the beauty. When the father does not take part in family education, it is difficult to assume what assessment will be created under the influence of opinion of other men.
Impact of men's education
Formation of the majority of installations begins with the birth moment. There is it thanks to communication with parents. Education by dad differs from maternal in style and I aim. The main task of dad is to create emotional independence, self-discipline, the correct ideas of family roles. It does not say that fathers have to tell every day about sexual distinctions of boys and girls, to tell about social rules. Just it is better to construct the kind and positive relations, to have common interests, a hobby.
Special influence of dad happens concerning the following aspects:
- relationship with an opposite sex;
- self-assessment;
- development of femininity;
- choice of the spouse.
Correctly created relations allow the girl to feel at teenage age protected, provides easier its passings. The girl who since childhood felt fatherly love assess many difficult life situations easier, quite just find a common language with men.
You should not forget that men's education affects also imitation. Children gain a lot of knowledge in the course of observation. They watch how parents communicate among themselves, use the same model at creation of the family relations in the future. Therefore dad has to behave adequately. In this case the girl will be able to choose to themselves in the future the husband who will become for her a support, reliable protection.
Men's education – a counterbalance women's
Psychologists proved that the self-assessment of the young beauty is more predetermined by opinion of the father. The maternal love uplifts the girl on a pedestal more often, assessment of the man is considered more objective. Rare fatherly praises are perceived by children more adequately therefore long time remain in memory.
Main mistakes of fathers:
- Fathers who do not make a remark to girls only praise, bring up self-confident women with inadequate high self-esteem.
- Daughters who never received a positive response from dad have a low self-assessment. It is more difficult to them to realize itself, to achieve goals.
The fathers noting the progress of children enjoying their victories, but not forgetting about constructive criticism raise the complete and harmonious personality.
Men's education of the daughter in the conditions of the modern world
Mom in family acts as a life source. Its task is to sponsor, cares and to support. Dad embodies society in family, establishes certain rules. It has all opportunities for establishment of borders, implementation of punishments.
Today the situation when the most part of functions is greased or indistinct is noted. If all of them are carried out only by one parent, it will be more difficult to daughter to adapt to a situation as unconditional acceptance and restrictions are opposite in the manifestations. If dad does not undertake these functions, the daughter can go two wrong roads: to break borders, to live with constant feeling of the increased alarm, without having an exact idea of a framework of legal.
For example, if dad does not carry out the tasks, and mom is engaged in establishment of the law, the girl does not receive in addition love, and any punishment perceives as unfair and groundless.
Fathers who praise daughters in attempt to help mothers in kitchen or in cleaning positively influence formation of femininity at girls. Men have to appreciate work and the woman that the child noticed it. Thanks to such approach the girl from small age will feel the importance of the woman in family.
Two stages of life of daughters
In consciousness of most of men all life of the girl is divided into two stages – before puberty and later. At the same time it is unimportant into how many stages the psychologists break children's development. The first stage is considered in male consciousness the simplest, it lasts up to 10 years. That in further life of already grown up child there were no problems, it is necessary to take several steps:
- To be present at the daughter's life from the very beginning. It is possible to be just near it.
- To find common interests. Remember that at the youngest age the girl with pleasure will be engaged in the same, than and dad.
- To become its support. The girl has to feel that she can always rely on the father.
- Every evening she has to go to sleep, precisely understanding – dad not to its party.
The second stage begins during approach of teenage age. It is the period of the conscious attitude towards itself. Dad can take part in the choice of section or circle, to support achievements in this sphere. It is important not to ignore important events in the child's life. The main mistake at this stage of education – the strengthened formation of femininity.
It is important, but to the forefront there is a test by the teenager of all the qualities, including leader. If to displace attention of the child only to the course of future family life, it is possible "to block" a way to self-realization. When the girl begins critically treats the appearance, it is especially important to dad to try to keep sincere communication with it. Approximately after 13 years it is possible to begin to include development of femininity. Perfectly, if dad drives the daughter at cinema, shows the example the gallant attitude.