Education of children - business difficult, responsible and very troublesome. Not each child wants to be engaged in any given, and parents should think out every time motivation. Naturally, the commitment of the child directly depends on that how correct is chosen motivation.
As it is impossible to motivate the child
Financial support
Of course, the child has to have money for pocket expenses, to begin with 5 - 6 summer age the kid has to be able to dispose of finance in a small amount. But, it is impossible to pay the child money for marks, cleaning, good behavior and other at all, otherwise in the future the child and to a step will not step without money. And here to pay for walking of a neighbour's dog, a slanted lawn, supervision for foreign kid quite appropriate, that is for those affairs which are not considered as ordinary and house.
It is impossible to compare to other children at all
If the child badly studies, dances, does hand-made articles and so on it under no circumstances cannot be spoken Tanya, Sasha Seryozha is able to do it better. A result will be the fact that the child will begin to do everything to spite or that even worse, at it the self-assessment will strongly go down.
To press emotions
It is impossible to tell to the child the following phrases at all: "I do not want to communicate with you until you clean up, either learn to behave, or will learn lessons, or will correct a bad note". At the beginning it works, but in the subsequent the child can refuse to communicate with the parent - the blackmailer.
To deprive of children's pleasures for bad marks
Not always unsatisfactory assessment is a result of unlearned lessons or badly acquired material. There are situations in which the child became puzzled, did not get on with the teacher, it appeared in conflict situations and a lot of things still. To punish for a bad note, depriving of the child of watching TV, a visit of cinema or guests, some an action or holidays, the child can impart so many sense of guilt. Before taking such radical measures, it is necessary to understand whether really bad note is a result of unlearned lessons.
To promise gifts on account of future achievements
For example, the child studies not really well or is not the leader in any team game or section and, parents, wishing to stimulate the child say: you will finish a quarter with a horoshist - you will receive the tablet, the smartphone, the machine, that is what the kid dreams of. A similar promise create only unnecessary tension, the child strongly worries if he does not manage to achieve desirable result, and the situation turns out exactly the opposite.
And still, same your child, and he will not stop being yours neither with good marks, nor with bad, with good behavior and not really. Of course, it is necessary to bring up and motivate the child, but you should not put in him all the unrealized ambitions, doing of the child something average between the excellent student, the artist and the athlete.