It is considered to be that disobedience is a "bad" behavior for the child that the child has to obey in everything seniors. And what would be if children really always obeyed … and learned never to make independent decisions?
Disobedience - it is normal
Whether it is possible to meet absolutely obedient children, in everything the parents following instructions? It is unlikely it is possible. It is worth remembering that the child is a certain, independent personality who develops and learns the world including through disobedience. The child who not "fills own cones" will hardly learn to make independently decisions and to work, adapting to circumstances, it will be very difficult to such kid to mature, he risks to remain forever "mother's darling" or "the little princess".
Besides, there is a set of age crises during which the child can show the most "terrible" behavior. Parents need only to realize that this behavior – is absolutely normal! And to learn to live and get on with the "small monster".
How to find a common language with the disobedient child
Do not demand that the child instantly followed any instruction. Try to ask quietly: "Please, make …" or: Whether "You will make …" You Should not forbid the child to learn the world. If he constantly meets the bans from parents, reaction will be the return. It is important to remember it, especially when your child begins "to explore" the house. The task of parents is to ensure safety: to lift pots with flowers are higher, on sockets to put caps and so on. Children try to imitate parents, repeat actions of parents. Use it and at the same time observe yourself: to wash up a plate after consumption of food, to lay clothes in a case. It is possible that so you will impart to children love for an order. Try to set a day regimen and agree with the child about his execution. Try to follow the rules strictly. For example, it is possible to play after the child has dinner. If the rule works every day and you do not allow indulgences, you will see good result. The instability of you can cause bewilderment from the child. Sincerely you praise the child for good behavior. If you react only to its pranks, the kid can decide that only by means of prank he can draw your attention to himself. Even small progress has to be noticed, for example, the kid learned to clean teeth or to lace up boots and so on. Of course, to see long-awaited results of the diligence in education of children, it is necessary to stock up with patience. But the result is worth it.