To save the child from danger, adults are forced to speak it ""is impossible"". Not always it meets understanding at the child. To avoid quarrels and the conflicts, follow several rules.
Instruction
1. You speak by a strict voice, do not smile. Let the child know all gravity of a situation and that you will not change the mind. Do not change the decisions. To avoid the conflicts, agree with other family members about what you forbid the child. For example, if before a lunch it is impossible to eat candies, then nobody has to do exceptions. Otherwise the child, having heard it "is impossible", will go to the grandmother who for certain will regret and will allow to eat candy.
2. Explain to the child why it is impossible to do it (it is impossible to drag a cat for a tail because to her it is painful and she can scratch you). If it is possible, offer an alternative: "It is impossible to draw pencils on wall-paper, but it is possible on a leaflet for paper, chalk on a board …", etc.
3. Forbidding something to the child, show wisdom. Perhaps, long ago it is time to reconsider some bans. Instead of forbidding to play with a kitten, remind of need to wash up hands after the game with an animal. You teach the child to develop the world around: how to handle sharp objects what to do if glass, etc. broke.
4. Remember that nobody cancelled a personal example.
5. Do not forbid, and play. Attract to an explanation of favourite heroes of animated films or fairy tales, make couple of dolls, play a sketch. Involve in it the child: let he will explain to careless Buratino that it is impossible to touch the iron; and the favourite doll – why cannot be greedy.
6. Have patience. Talk more often to the child that was heard in your speech not only the word "is impossible". Try not to abuse it, otherwise the child will just cease to pay to it attention. If the child is still small, remove far away things which are a subject of yours with it the conflicts (scissors, matches, sharp objects, etc.).
7. The negative behavior of the child can just mean that he does not know how to arrive. If took away a toy, then quite natural behavior for the child from him – to hit the offender. Explain that to do in such situation: to tell mom or to try to agree about return of a toy peacefully.