If you noticed that something is impossible to your child that he is afraid of difficulties, reluctantly makes contact with people, then it is a reason for concern. The child is not self-assured, and he needs to be helped. Work on – business difficult, often demanding the help from the outside.
Instruction
1. Ideally the adequate self-assessment and confidence in the forces in the child needs to be developed since childhood. By the way, the overestimated self-conceit can serve bad service – excessive confidence in the forces is dangerous. First of all, only parents who are sure of themselves can have a self-assured child. Shyness, weakness, fear of tests and difficulties – all this the child feels very thinly, and then adopts at mom with dad. The parent has to be for the child an authority, but false authorities will only spoil a situation. If you love the child, then but you do not smother him the love and excessive care. Also do not deprive of the child of love and caress, be not with him too strict. Education is education and if the child was guilty, he deserves punishment and if made something good, achieved success – a praise.
2. As for progress, it is necessary to watch closely them and not to lose sight, but also not to overpraise. If the child received the five, mastered some new hobby, won a competition, be not afraid to praise it. If it made a mistake, do not put an end to it. Each person has the right for a mistake. Point to it and help to correct, make everything not to allow its repetition.
3. The golden rule of pedagogics – avoid a cliche and labels. The child received the two – it does not mean that he is a poor student. Fought with children in the yard - does not mean that it the stupid person. All these words become attached to the child, stick, and as a result he begins to correspond to them. Tell the child that he lazy, but not the idler. The cliche is a cross. You always have to believe that at the child everything will turn out.
4. You teach the child to communicate with people. Self-confidence develops in communication, in a talk. If since childhood of people is timid, constraining, will be afraid of negative attitude, a sneer, then in the future he will not be able to strike up new acquaintances and is full to communicate with people around. What can prevent very much in life. Push the child to communication with peers if he with someone quarreled, try to advise a constructive way out, you teach it to reach compromise.
5. Do not compare the child to other children. Phrases are not necessary: "Here Petya the good boy, studies, helps mom, and you!". Petya is Petya, he has parents, and your child – the independent personality who does not need comparisons.
6. Help the child to achieve the objectives, but do not try to obtain them for him. The child has to feel that he achieved the objectives, then over and over again he will be self-assured more and more.
7. Try to inspire in the child that if he undertook any business, it needs to be finished. Abandoned, unfinished affairs develop feeling of inability something to make, weaknesses, otioseness.