Small children are not responsible for themselves. It is impossible to rely on their assurances. They are not able to assess the consequences of the actions. In this regard there can be situations with which children will not cope, staying at home without supervision of adults.
At first it is necessary to be defined: from what age can the child remain Home Alone? Such questions very much disturb parents. Psychologists say that in general it is undesirable to do it. All children — different, and sometimes when they remain some, at them are developed fears, shyness, etc.
Other question if in it there is a need. For example, single mother cannot constantly be with the child. She should work, and there are no means to employ the nurse. Anyway, it is not recommended to leave the child at home one up to five years.
The small child does not realize himself the individual. He can feel only in total with the parents and acquaintances. And if once mom even if and for short term, drops out of a field of vision, it causes a stress in the child.
Let him say to parents that there can quietly be one. Such recognition from the child up to 5-6 years should not be considered seriously since he does not realize responsibility yet. When he one, can come to his mind the crazy idea which will begin to be realized, and what will be consequences, it is learned by parents, having come back home.
In old times often left small children of some, and that to them it was not terrible, for them did a doll. It was the toy "a hare on a finger". The kid clamped it in a cam so that ears remained outside and he could tell something to a toy, share the pleasures and troubles. When did a toy, surely made a cross which was a charm for the child. And as far as it will be relevant presently, it is necessary to find out individually.
Children develop differently, and when to leave the child of one, parents should solve proceeding from readiness of the child. Parents have to be sure that their child is already ready. Some show ability to loneliness since five years, others are not ready to it in fourteen. Everything depends on self-confidence, development of skills, courage, etc. Look narrowly at the child more attentively. If he refuses such offer, then irrespective of in what form it sounded, it is necessary to hold off it.
To accelerate process, it is necessary to find time and every day at least on half an hour to find for it time: to talk, play, discuss various subjects. Such actions calm the child and give confidence that though some time you will be with it.
To prepare the child for such responsible stage, it is necessary to give information beforehand: where you will go for what time and what you recommend to be engaged. If the child in difficulty, it is necessary to choose independently for him for this period a range of classes.
It is desirable to leave with it some means of communication and to instruct in case of emergency situations. From the very beginning it leads to what calls will postupaat very often, the child checks the parents and calms himself. You should not be angry because of it. Enter its state, and then you will understand that it is very important for it. Parents should be consecutive and to keep the promises. If you were going to leave for an hour, it should not stretch for three.
If you did not prepare the child for emergency situations, it can cause threat not only for his mentality, but also for health. Having gone too far in care and drawing in detail the terrifying pictures of consequences, you can fill the child with dread, and then precisely he will not agree to remain one. Kind of you it is good him knew, it is necessary to consider the fact that in accuracy he can not carry out your instructions.