Mom is the most important person who brings up the son. Only how she will explain to him vital a concept as will sponsor and develop, a lot of things depend. You need to teach the child of independence and responsibility for the acts, but not to encourage him in everything, cultivating irresponsibility and a rank "the mother's son".
Instruction
1. Not division of and child. You do not speak about the son and yourself in multiple "we": we solved, we ate. You remember, there are two independent and unique personalities – you and your son.
2. Feeling of constant presence of mother. Think of that how many you leave to the son of personal space. It is not necessary to fill with image of mother all life of the child – in it there has to be a place and to others.
3. Hyper guardianship. Do not do the center of the whole world and point of your existence of the son. Yes, it can catch a cold or smear knees, but you should not do from this the tragedy.
4. Desire to protect from all adversities. It is inherent in each mother, but try to dose such rushes. In some case it is appropriate to protect the kid from offenders, but constantly you should not accuse them of failures of the son.
5. Child's cult. Think of whether you consider the child property, whether you wish to share his attention with other people. Remember that in further life he will not be able to serve as the head of the family or to be the judicious chief.
6. The power and despotism – enemies of the correct education. Not only that you control each step and do not allow to make decisions. The men not capable to be responsible for the acts, as a rule, grow up from such children.
7. Mother's darlings, as a rule, are infantile and do not want to be adults. In the career plan you should not expect professional growth from them – without mom it cannot do anything. Do not wait for the fact that he will want the family relations if you are not pleasant to his mom.
8. There are only two opinions: mother's and wrong – such is a position of "mother's darlings". The first person, whom he to address is mom. Following its advice, and not always true, the man will destroy the private life.
9. Whims of mother are carried out immediately, and it does not seem to men it is strange. Does not interest them at all how to get rid of hyper guardianship and despotism.
10. Most often such men have problems with private life. The mother strongly strengthened a postulate in their consciousness that only mom is capable to accept it it what it is, and all others look for benefit.
11. "Mother's darlings" are not capable to change the life. They will send the CV in other company or will move to other city if mom is an initiator.