As many modern parents look for information on the correct education. Reading a set of books, forums and the recommendations of experts of mom and dad wish to find ideal methods of education. But at the same time often adults forget about nearly most important way to affect behavior of the child – own personal example.
Distribution of some addictions in our society just terrifies. What huge number of people smokes, uses foul language, throws garbage or drinks alcohol on the street. Many of them have own children. If to ask such dad about whether he that his kid used foul language wants, for certain the father will answer that he is not present. The parent with enviable stubbornness can reprimand the child how it is correct to behave. But all admonitions will not bring any result. The child with bigger readiness will believe and will follow the example of behavior, and than words.
Drinking of beer on a bench in the yard and abuse at the top of the voice swear words are egregious examples of disgusting behavior of adults to which children imitate. However, there are also less evident cases. How many parents of school students complain that their children do not want to read? And how many mothers of teenagers struggle with dependence of the sons and daughters on computer games? There is a lot of such families. But it is rare when adults think of that how long they read the book or spent evening, communicating with each other, but not behind watching TV.
Other example more characteristic of kids: the child constantly crumbles cookies or bread in the room, refusing to eat fully at a table in kitchen. Mom swears, constantly takes away the baby at a table, trying to seat on a chair though for a while. And result zero. Perhaps, then to it at first to think: and when their family had in full strength supper together at a table in kitchen? Or how often other family members something are enough from a table, and then run on the apartment with a piece of food, doing the things? For certain such examples of behavior will be. It will turn out that dad has supper behind watching TV on a sofa, for example. Then to demand from the child of accuracy in acceptance of food simply hypocritically.
Kids often forget to wash hands after walk or before food. In such situations it is possible to swear long. But there is also other less painful way – to wash hands together with it. Very seldom adults go to the bathroom at once, coming home. But if they constantly do it in front of the child and/or together with him, then the kid will perfectly set such skill.
Always before once again imposing requirements to the child, parents it is worth thinking: whether they set an example of the correct behavior? Whether they do what is wanted from the kid or the teenager? Often difficult behavior which mothers and fathers strongly and unsuccessfully correct, - their own model which the child absorbed and adopted.