From the beginning of academic year many parents, begin to think: what estimates the child will have at school whether he everything will be in time and how to make so that he ceased to be lazy.
The main thing that the child was busy
Why to parents it is so important that the child was engaged at an extent of all day – lessons, sections, circles, reading useful literature? Unfortunately, moves many not only desire: to give to children everything that they received a maximum of possible from life. Many adults unconsciously join in a competition: which of children of their acquaintances already knows a foreign language or participates in the Olympic Games, and begin to wait from the own child of similar progress. Of course, there are also those which are afraid of free time of the child as that can get to the bad company or "will be engaged not in that".
Nevertheless, not always the refusal of the child to do something means laziness in that negative understanding to which got used. In psychology laziness call "resistance". And, to cease to transfer all responsibility to the child, it is necessary to understand why the child "resists":
1. The child has no motivation. Only the small percent of children has an educational motivation. And, as a rule, the few schools are occupied with its formation. Generally process of training for children is boring and uninteresting. Parents can promote the child in inclination in study: to share feelings, to read and discuss together read, to sincerely enjoy its progress.
2. Child in a stress. If the child has no senses of security, then and an opportunity to enjoy something new at him vanishes, not to mention study. If during school day he feels fear, shame, tension, then by the end of day it becomes apathetic and tired. Without having understood a situation to the adult it is simpler to accuse him of laziness. But parents are responsible not only for physical health, but also for emotional. Ask the child: "At school it is difficult for you? It is connected with schoolmates, the teacher or objects?". Depending on the answer, propose to the child a solution.
3. The child is not self-assured. Disbelief in itself can also lead to "idleness". If parents crucially treat the children and are avaricious on a praise, then they begin to consider themselves "not such". Respectively, why to do something if from close people only and you hear discontent and criticism.
It is possible to be lazy and it is necessary
Before accusing the child of laziness, take an interest, than he is busy at present. If lies on a bed and listens to music, ask about its plans and point to the forthcoming affairs, remind that are always ready to listen to him and to help, but you do not press. He could come from school in the upset feelings: received the two, has a fight with the schoolmate. Give him time to recover, stay with themselves and to digest the event. To learn to listen and hear itself(himself) useful skill which will help with the future of not to break.