As it always happens, the truth is somewhere in the middle. The severe discipline can be a cage in which lock the person, and its total absence results in sloppiness and impossibility to achieve even insignificant results in life. But what it in fact discipline? It is ability to perform a certain work not because it very much is pleasant but because it SHOULD be executed. Unless in our life there are not enough cases when we act because it is necessary, but not because we want? For example, we wash the floors in the apartment (perhaps, someone very much loves this occupation, but by and large people do it because it is necessary), we go to shop behind products or we come to a meeting precisely in due time. That is, we at ourselves nevertheless develop certain useful habits. Any, and the discipline takes place in life of each person.
Why the word "discipline" for many people bears rather negative loading?
Psychologists claim that the discipline is an inherited quality. Someone is already born with tendency to planning, and someone is initially not capable to fit into the established framework. Children at whom the indicator of discipline is practically on zero are not able to gather when it is demanded by teachers or parents. To sit down in time at lessons or to rise a bit earlier and to do exercises, useful to health — for them real torment. Parents and teachers, trying to impart them skills, useful to life, often just cripple mentality of the little person, creating at him feeling of a cage in which it is close and boring for it. In this case the discipline turns into violence. So the word "discipline" causes in many of us disgust in many respects thanks to education. Quite often in the childhood happened so that teachers just said what needs to be done, without explaining the reasons, and punished for disobedience. In many cases the discipline was cultivated by a whip method (children much, and the tutor one, you will not explain to everyone!).
And here for those who do not love the word "discipline" and also for those at whom this quality approaches zero by the nature, there is other good word - "motivation". It is impossible to impose to the person useful habits until he does not want to take them them. And the motivation helps to want just. When the person sees the purpose, he has a desire most to develop at itself some useful skills.
And whether the discipline is necessary in general?
The word "discipline" in itself consists from two words: disclpulus - the pupil and discere - to study. That is, the discipline in fact means commitment of each pupil to what he studies to. It is possible to understand discipline not as refusal of some pleasures and as concentration of attention on your desires. The main thing to understand what you want.
Education of discipline, as a rule, pays off with a Trinity. So, for example, the discipline in sport leads to health, and sometimes, and to glory; discipline in business – to financial prosperity, success; discipline at observance of a diet – to an excellent figure. That is, ordered approach to any business leads us to the necessary result. And the discipline is and there is an order.
How do develop useful habits?
- Think: and why to you in general to change? Present for what future you waits if you continue to indulge the weaknesses and as it will change if you develop at yourself any given habits. Or you will refuse already available (harmful, as a rule).
- Be defined what useful habits you want to have?
- To accustom itself to something, it is enough to repeat this action within 21 days. And all. After that it becomes a habit and does not give you an inconvenience any more.
Each of us — the smith of own happiness and misfortune. Though it and is difficult, but each person can put the life on the right track. It is easy - it is only to slide downhill. And rise is always accompanied by inconveniences and overcoming itself. And if the person masters such abrupt mountain as self-discipline, then all other mountains will seem an utter nonsense.
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