Time frames of crisis are accurately not defined, they fluctuate from 2.5 to 4.5 years. Crisis is the natural phenomenon in psychological development of the child.
Negativism – negative reaction to proposals of adults, in other words to make the return, to about what it was asked.
Obstinacy – the child the first decision should catch something and cannot refuse it, even on condition of replacement.
Willfulness – emergence of a phrase – I am! The kid tries the forces, approves himself, actively learns the world. Though its initiative is quite often inadequate.The obstinacy – is focused against lifestyle which developed in family up to three years.
Protest revolt – discontent and negative emotions, the main tool of the child at this stage of growing.
Depreciation – what had earlier value was interesting, now depreciates. The child can begin to be called, break expensive to him before a toy and to make similar acts.
Despotism – the child shows the power over people around to achieve desirable result uses various receptions. The kid forces people around to do everything that he claimed.
Reaction of adults to behavior of the child in this crisis is very important. There is a number of uniform councils which application leads to breaching of negative lines in behavior at the child over time:
- Application of a game in training of the kid of independence.
- Avoiding totalitarian style in education.
- Refusal of hyper guardianship.
- Parents need to adhere to one strategy of education.
- The general search of conciliatory decisions in the conflicts where the child has the right to choose.
- Rules of conduct have to move in a usual form and be observed soft control of their performance.
- Training of the child in skills of communication with peers and adults.
- The emphasis in education has to be on the positive relation, but not on the bans and punishment.
Crisis of three years is not manifestation of disobedience or adverse heredity at all, and a stage of development of the child without which personal development is unreal. Respect the child and you teach it people around. And only parents the actions and the relation can help the child rather and crisis of three years is easier outgrow.