Jealousy – feeling which can shake and destroy even the strongest friendly relations. As a rule, it arises not spontaneously and when friends give a reason for jealousy, paying attention to other person, showing to it sympathy.
Instruction
1. Try not to think of how your girlfriend spends time with someone. Find to yourself interesting occupation which will bring positive emotions, will allow you to distract from negative thoughts. Communicate with the friends, acquaintances, colleagues more, try to find at least temporary replacement to your friendship.
2. Make the list of positive and negative sides of your friendship. Estimate whether it brings more positive emotions, than negative. Perhaps, you give to the relations with the girlfriend too serious character, require from her more attention, than she can give you. Solve for yourself whether really she is that person to whom you are ready to trust.
3. Try to come into contact with those of whom you are jealous the girlfriend. If it is other girlfriend or the company of friends, perhaps, you will like to communicate all together, and then reasons for jealousy will be less, the girlfriend will spend at the same time time both with you, and with friends. If the feeling of jealousy does not abandon you and in the company, try not to be crossed with the girlfriend at those moments when she spends time with the guy or friends. The less often you will see each other under such circumstances, the less there will be your jealousy.
4. Put yourself to the place of the girlfriend and look at a situation from its party. Perhaps, your jealousy brings it disappointment and prevents to construct good relations with the young man or the husband. Remember that each person has the right for personal space, private life with which you should not interfere if you about it are not asked.
5. Estimate as your relations in the future will develop. Perhaps, you should replace the residence, studies or works, and parting with the girlfriend will be inevitable. In a new situation you, most likely, will get new friends and remember that the jealousy was useless, took away forces and as a result did not lead to anything.