The family conflicts conceal in themselves break in relations threat. How to avoid quarrels and how it is correct to sort out the relations?
Instruction
1. Often family quarrels, become the ordinary, habitual phenomenon. Spouses are reconciled with it, mistakenly believing that this normal phenomenon which is present at all families. Without undertaking anything, the most minor problems turn into scandals at the end of which, having dumped emotional loading and aggression, spouses agree everyone to differ. It is necessary to understand that quarrels are not norm in the family relations and all arisen conflicts need to be solved up to the end.
2. If your soulmate did not execute, some obligations, made the wrong act, and you are already ready to flare up, calm down. It is necessary to sort out the relations in the silent atmosphere, quiet, balanced tone. So the necessary information will quicker reach your spouse, and will not cause response, the increased tones and aggression. Take an interest in what the reason of this act. Tell as the fact that it was unpleasant to you, it upset you.
3. It is necessary to find ways of the solution of the arisen problem. Offer the options, listen to opinion of the soulmate, let's express and sound the solutions. Working with such way, compromise and a common ground will surely be reached. The main thing to show that you resolve an issue together, each opinion is considered.
4. Also important discussing a problem to recognize that both are guilty. So process of a solution to the conflict will go quicker, and you will save the lot of time and nerves which are spent for mutual recriminations. Be defined, you want to dump steam or to resolve the arisen issue.
5. Sorting out the relations, you do not become personal. Discuss a problem, a concrete act, but not moral qualities of your spouse. Respect opinion of another, let's express and explain everything from other point of view.
6. Often small, daily quarrels are only a consequence of more serious problems. The collected offenses, financial hardship and another. If not to find out the main reason of constant irritation, family life will become intolerable. Sort out yourself, frankly talk to the soulmate about a root of all small scandals. If the reasons rather difficult, it is possible to address the expert who will analyze your situation and will help to spread out everything on regiments.