In any family there are quarrels. Not to avoid them. But sometimes these quarrels accept catastrophic character. They continually arise "from scratch". And it is not just quarrels any more, and the whole scandals with loud shouts and a beating of ware. And children become witnesses. Their weak mentality suffers first of all. And it is worth showing a droplet of attention and patience to each other, and desire will not swear any more.
Instruction
1. First of all, pay attention to the reasons of your family scandals. Sometimes they arise because of an utter nonsense: the thrown socks or not washed up plate. Whether itself should spoil because of it and close people mood? Can more simply most lift these socks yes to wash up this plate?
2. Do not break the bad mood on the husband. Happens to you "frayed" nerves at work or in shop, and you come home, and break rage on the family. It cannot be done. You remember, the family is your closest people. To them it is painful when they are offended without the reason.
3. Before to accuse the husband of something, "in mind" count to hundred. It will give you minute to think and whether it is worth hurling these accusations in general.
4. Tell the spouse about what you want from him. Try to reason your requirements logically. Do not break on shout. You remember, shout and negative emotions – enemies of your kind relations.
5. Let's express also to "the second half". Most likely, the husband has claims to you too. Besides, do not begin to be protected by means of shout. Just accept to data and adopt about what he will ask you.
6. During the quarrel do not begin to remember last offenses. Otherwise your family disorder will begin to expand as a snowball.
7. Do not involve in scandals of children. Kids should not choose the party of one of parents. For them mother and the father – it is equivalent favourite people. Any your quarrels – blow to mentality of the child.
8. Think up small secrets which will help your family to prevent scandals. For example, get a moneybox. Let the one who the first began to sort out the relations throw coins in it. Or think up a word – the password. Having heard this word, you have to cease to quarrel.
9. Make it a rule: if swore – before going to bed it is necessary to reconcile. Do not leave offense next day. And in general, night – the best time for reconciliation.
10. Also you remember, reconciliation – it, of course, is good. But it is better to prevent a quarrel, than to waste the time for a showdown with the person whom you love and you appreciate.