Serious troubles or especially the grief connected with irreparable loss are difficult to be worried without the aid of relatives. Stock phrases "I am very sorry" and "I sympathize with you" in such cases not always are appropriate: it is better to try to find special approach really to console the girl and to support her.
Instruction
1. Listen to the girl. This the first that needs to be made. Do not kill it, be not irritated, do not offer the ways of solving the problem seeming to you ideal, you will not hear all history up to the end yet. Sometimes it becomes easier for the woman when she speaks, will cry, aloud will pronounce those words which tormented her. If the girl not against, it is possible to support tactile contact: to stroke on the head, to take by a hand, to embrace. It is necessary to do it easily and unostentatiously, just designating the presence and readiness to support.
2. Ask, than you can help, tell about specific actions which can solve though a part of difficulties. Other option simply is to offer the help in case it will be necessary further. For example, you can tell: "If something is required to you, at once address me, and I will make everything that in my forces that to support you". It is important to let the girl know that you her problem worries and that you will not leave it alone with difficulties.
3. Consider a key part of the problem, being at loss for words for a consolation. If the girl seriously was upset because of dismissal, explain that find new work not so difficult, apparently, tell several positive stories on this subject. If it is about parting with the man, advise the woman to take care of the own life and to distract, invite her to walk or at cinema, choose option of pleasant pastime which will help to distract from problems.
4. If it is about the death of the loved one, try to make so that the girl herself began to console others. Softly explain to her that the people around which too faced terrible loss need its help and support. The divided grief becomes slightly weaker, and understanding that others need a consolation too, inspires force. Offer the help in the organization of a funeral or the solution of other problems which are inevitably arising in such cases. Removing a part of cares from the girl, you will be able to console her a little.