The girls who are in search of the partner in life have a certain stereotype — what qualities has to have. When on the horizon there is a candidate for this role, there is a question: it approaches or not.
Instruction
1. Some psychologists recommend to select according to similarity, that is the most similar to you the person. Others, on the contrary, recommend to choose opposite at heart - such people are attracted to each other. However the third approach is most practical: choose the partner having with you identical values. You will be helped with decision-making by some knowledge: all people are divided into 4 "psychological families". And ideally you need the partner belonging to one family with you.
2. Family "Alpha" is gourmets of life, judges of psychological comfort and positive emotions. They love a flight of fancy, freedom of thought, want to reach the science horizon. Absent-minded scientists and cheerful epicureans find each other in this family. Values: happiness, comfort, opportunities, clarity.
3. Family "Beta" is the people refined and appreciating refinement. Here you will find strong-willed leaders, fans of an order who find in this group emotional outstanding artistic personalities. Representatives of this family consider the life rich if she is full of bright events and strong-willed achievements. Here in the price hierarchy and the power. Values: clarity, happiness, events, will.
4. Family "Scale" Predictors and pragmatists and also charismatic leaders and morals campaigners. These people very crucially treat relatives and the progress. Among them there are many practical workaholics. The relations and influence which is based not on hierarchy, and on personal appeal of the individual are very important for group. Values: will, relations, events, usefulness.
5. The family "Delta" Search of conveniences and practical value, materialism is combined with spirituality as search by the person of answers to eternal questions. This group does not love rules, and approves worthiness of each person. Many representatives of this family have "clever fingers". Here very much like to look for the hidden talents, in the special price diligence and accuracy. Values: relations, opportunities, usefulness, comfort.
6. Write down all 8 values in a column and put points for each preference opposite to everyone. At first estimate that is more expensive to you: comfort or fullness of life events, opportunities or will, advantage or happiness, relations or logical clarity?
7. Then think that it seems to you more important: will or comfort, happiness as feeling or relations, clarity or advantage, events or opportunities? It is more difficult to make this choice. But as a result you get an idea of the preferred values, the most important for you will be designated by two strokes. Find these four values (or at least three) in descriptions of psychological families.
8. Ask the guy to pass the same test. It is the best of all if you with it treat one family; tolerantly, if to next. But if you treat the Alpha, and it Scale or if one of you of the Beta, and the second of the Delta, consider the relations as short-term. Though, even in that case it is possible to construct full-fledged strong family, but it will be more difficult.