If after break in relations of a thought constantly return to your former man, hurting you and not allowing to live further, it is necessary to dismiss it. Even if to you it seems that not you control the thoughts, to make it quite really.
Instruction
1. Most often thoughts of the man do not wish to leave if you did not accept the parting fact in heart. Tell yourself that the relations already ended. They already in the past therefore constantly it is as unproductive to think of what occurred how to chew events of 20-year.
2. It is not necessary absolutely to forbid itself to think of the former man. All of us seek to do what is forbidden. Allow themselves to suffer and worry about it, but only in certain time. For example, from 20-15 till 20-30. If during the day roll former feelings on you, push them into the background, promising themselves that you will surely worry about it in the allowed time. When this time comes, honestly keep the promises. Focus is that when comes 20-15, it will not want to suffer to you, most likely. Latently you will understand that to long for the schedule silly. Important specification – if you passed the fixed time, so it is necessary to wait till tomorrow to think of it. It is impossible to move this time "on later".
3. Think of positive sides of your gap. They always are, let and in trifles. In an example, now you need to spend less time at a plate and at a sink. You will not puzzle any more where it spends time and whether he tells you the truth. Write out all these good points on a piece of paper under large heading "Hurrah! Freedom!" also hang up to yourself on a wall. When thoughts of it return again, you look at your list and rejoice that so turned out. At first this thought will seem blasphemous, but you will begin to rejoice absolutely sincerely soon.
4. Take with affairs all the free time that you just had no free time to indulge in despondency. Begin to do what was wanted to be made long ago, but removed because spent evenings with your former man. Now it is a high time to be engaged in it.