Often it seems to people that in life there are a lot of troubles and irreparable situations, but actually it is practically possible to change and change everything, except the most irreparable – loss of the loved one. Against the background of this tragedy all daily sorrows grow dim, and at heart there is a huge bleeding wound. Also there is a question of how to find forces to live further?
Instruction
1. Do not restrain, trying to crush tears and pain. On the contrary, allow themselves "to dive" into depths of a grief that we cry also tears to give vent to despair and hopelessness. When it seems that heart just about will not sustain and will become torn, and before eyes a kaleidoscope pictures from the lived and not past life when from understanding of the terrible word "never" and what could be, but any more never is flash, there is a wish not just to cry, and to shout with despair, it is possible and it is necessary to give vent to emotions and even to shout, it is anyway better, than to store a grief in itself, restraining with the last bit of strength.
2. But at the same time it is very important not to drown in an ocean of tears, and to be restored gradually to normal life. Anything can become an incentive. It is possible to steep in work or, on the contrary, to begin to pay special attention to family, itself can think up a hobby (any, main that it though distracted from sad thoughts a little) or to go for a while to change scenery – everything depends on opportunities and current situation.
3. It is very important that close people were near. Be not fenced off from the world and do not banish from yourself relatives and friends, reveling in the grief. Yes, during this difficult period it seems that nobody in the whole world is able to understand your pain, the words of support and participation often seem silly and senseless, but it is worth to rememberit is worth to remember popular wisdom that the divided grief – a half-grief. With close people it is possible to remember the left person and once again to endure some significant vital moments or, after all, it is simple to keep silent nearby.
4. Keep from desire to create houses a peculiar memorial. Let the left person continue to live in heart, memoirs and in photos in an album, but it is not necessary to leave you, for example, untouched a desktop or the whole room as a keepsake about the dead (it is, of course, not about the first days after the funeral, and about much longer period).
5. If it becomes obvious that the grief overflows so that independently it is impossible "to come up" already, and usual soothing (like valerian, a motherwort and some pharmaceutical medicines) do not work at all, do not hesitate to address the expert. Professional psychological assistance will help to look at a situation in a new way and to find forces to live further.