There is a stereotype according to which girls choose to themselves in husbands of those men who remind them their fathers. In life, really, there is a set of examples of it.
From where there was a stereotype that girls look for the guy similar to the father
Since childhood in the human head a certain warehouse of stereotypes is formed, as boys and girls have to behave, as the family model has to look, what have to be the relations between the man and the woman that is bad and what is good. All this proceeds from their parents as children grow in family and learn the world through a prism of vision of their ancestors. Mothers since childhood try to enclose in reason of the girl as the woman what mistakes should be avoided not to repeat a mistake of the parents has to behave. But whether it is correct?
In successful families where there is approximate dad, a home, love and mutual understanding, often, girls try to use the best efforts to find a prototype of the beloved father. To find the loving person, good dad to the kids. Sometimes this search drags on for many years, selection there do not undergo many men, in each of them there is something that is not enough to the ideal which developed in subconsciousness.
Girls lower hands, there is an obsession that search is useless, and simply there are no such men as their dad, any more.
Each man by the nature - the fighter. He is ready to battle for a goal, but if the man begins to be compared to someone and try to adjust his lines to the developed image, practically each man respecting himself does not maintain and just leaves. Girls since childhood swear in families where the father did not respect the family, to themselves an oath, never to contact such men. Statistically, the attraction goes to young people with difficulties. And often everything occurs so that the girl and attracts to herself men with a difficult warehouse of character. For this reason they have a set of difficulties in the relations, scandals, dismantling. The stronger the girl hated that life with the bad father, tried to escape from problems and to forget about a nightmare, the more difficultly it is necessary to it in the family life. Besides, further it should conduct already dismantling with the husband.
The negative will pursue it until the girl does not stop and will not try to find the prime cause to all.
How to resolve a problem?
Council for girls who want to have happy family - do not try to escape from problems, and try to accept the past and to forgive the father for all his acts. Glance deeply in the memory, forget offenses, remember only good, fall in love with life such what it is. Whatever he was a father, thank him at least for the fact that it gave you life! Release all negative, and it will become easier for you. It is better to begin the relations with the partner with ease, it is your life and another story altogether. Do not try someone or something to change, just turn life to other course!