Do you remember how adults separate the arguing and fighting kids? "Who stops the first dispute, that more cleverly", - they say. And quite often it works – the quarrel stops. Perhaps, and in a case with the husband, you the first should stop a dispute on the one who is right and who is not? If after all to prove the case for you essentially, then be guided by the following councils.
Instruction
1. For a start it is necessary to calm down (at least for a while if still it is impossible to calm down absolutely). In it cleaning about the house can help, for example, (washing of floors, ware, a bathtub). Physical work helps to calm down, splash out irritation and tension. And the conversation only then will be productive when interlocutors are quiet.
2. To put itself to the place of other person, especially in a difficult situation (in time quarrels, for example), difficult, there is no wish. And it is the simplest to wave away a phrase: "Well, its position is clear! Only it is incorrect! Here I tell the truth!" But conclusions can be wrong when looked at a situation only on the one hand. Therefore look at a situation with the husband's eyes, and urge it to estimate the event of you.
3. Try not to prove the husband's wrongfulness, and to offer a compromise. Kind of strongly you loved, you cannot always and in everything to agree with the one whom you love. But it is not a reason for a divorce yet. But here if you are not able to go on compromises ("it left on a compromise and did not return"), to agree and (let in trifles) to concede in something, then it is better for free to live.
4. If you do not agree with your relatives, but nevertheless want to find a common language with them, for a start get rid of words "obviously", "naturally", "undoubtedly", "certainly", "needless to say" – all this obvious, undoubted, certainly and needless to say for those who agree with you. Not concordants similar words will only anger. Replace categorical "You are not right!" on soft, but same on sense: "It seems to me …" or "I think differently!"
5. Recognize that you can be not right, but ask to discuss it. Tell simply: "Perhaps I and not the rights, but let's it discuss, we will consult …"
6. Avoid a monologue: and if speak to you and if you speak. Dialogue keeps attention of the interlocutor, allows to see that it from what was told by you, remained misunderstood, and conclusions which are drawn at dialogue – are not imposed, they – the general opening.