Before some people there is a big problem when it is necessary to refuse to someone. If you refer yourself to this category too, it is necessary to change a situation. Learn to speak "no" if you cannot or you do not want to satisfy someone's request.
Instruction
1. Think what can be behind your non-failure operation. Perhaps, the reason of your inability to speak "no" should be looked for in insufficiently high self-assessment. Then you need to work on yourself, to increase confidence in Sebha and the acts. Develop the system of the principles and views and remain are faithful to the policy. Then you will not suffer because refused a request of other person and to think whether correctly you arrived.
2. Perhaps, you want to be good for all people around, to be pleasant to other people. Such desire is normal, but is difficult to achieve. You need to decide that it is more important for you: to observe personal interests and to remain itself or to be the center of general admiration. You should not attach too great value to the fact that people will think or will tell about you. Be guided by own opinion and stop to depend on assessment of people around.
3. Remember that sometimes it is necessary to show healthy egoism. Think of own more, but not of others requirements. If you do not observe the interests, nobody for you will make it. You should not act to the detriment of yourself, to agree to execute some assignment when you and so have no time or forces. Remember love for yourself and be not afraid to protect yourself.
4. If it is difficult to you to tell "no" to the person at once, pull with the answer. Report that you will think over a request. Try to postpone a solution which does not concern you. Later time you will feel confident in own position on the matter and will manage to refuse resolutely. Do not allow to take itself unawares and to get at you consent to some business.
5. You should not shoulder a heap of others affairs resignedly. Do not assume that people around used your kindness. If at work you are loaded more, than it is assumed by your official duties, do not hesitate to ask about increase. Perhaps, among your friends someone actively uses your complaisance. Ask somehow this person about favor and look not at reaction. Perhaps, thus you will see the real face someone from good acquaintances.
6. Prepare several answers to requests, inconvenient for you, in advance. If you cannot refuse to the person directly, think up an occasion not to carry out its assignment. At once to orient in a situation can be difficultcan be difficult therefore use one of the ready answers. It is possible to try to talk to close and good friends frankly. Explain to them what you lose, agreeing to comply with any given request. Of course, members of your family can react differently therefore to you to solve, to tell the truth or it is beautiful to deceive.