The frictionless relations between children and parents, unfortunately, do not happen. The most unpleasant in quarrels – unwillingness of both parties to go on compromises therefore it is very important to take the first step to reconciliation.
Very often after the relations with parents reached a deadlock, people leave the house, having slammed behind themselves a door. When serious the conflict go too far, arguments come to an end, both parents, and children can tell or make something what all will regret then very bitterly for. Similar situations happen usually because of unwillingness to listen to each other, impossibility to look at the events from others point of view.
Any normal person very strongly loves the child. Everything that is done by parents even if it seems wrong or unethical, they do for the best. A concept of the benefit for the children at all very different. Often violation of personal space of the child by parents who cannot accept that the child already grew up and became absolutely independent forms a basis of the conflict. Very many parents are not ready to accept that all consequences of decisions of the adult child lay down only on his shoulders. And sometimes it happens that the idealized image of the child does not maintain collision with reality when the matured person acts counter with idea of parents of it.
It is simpler to more young man to take the first step to reconciliation. It is very important to understand it.
That reconciliation took place as soon as possible, to it the child has to take the first step. Because even the most severe parent cannot resist sincere and honest apologies. It is necessary to have a heart-to-heart talk, to discuss all disagreements, and to do it right after the quarrel. Old offenses it is more difficult to forget and forgive. If the quarrel went too far, it will be required to time for reconciliation more. The child has to show diplomatic abilities to prepare parents for constructive dialogue in which as it is possible to express more correctly the opinion on an uncomfortable situation. In a similar situation the request to parents well works, to put itself to the place of the child. They need to think as they would react if them forced to renounce the principles, to be engaged in unloved affairs, to be engaged in something against will. By and large, the similar request returns them in the childhood or youth, displaces their point of view so that they it is imperceptible for itself support the child. In similar dialogue it is important to inform parents of a thought that all important decisions, the choice of a course of life, commission of mistakes – very important component of adequate personal development.
During reconciliation it is very important to be the most sincere.
At the end of any similar dialogue the guy (or the girl) is simply obliged to tell parents as he or she loves them and appreciates. Because as a result important are emotions and the relation.