What only surprises are not given to us by life, and, alas, not always they are only pleasant. And it is hardly worth hoping that in the relations of couple there can be only clear and cloudless days. But when the hurricane passes, passions cease and pain becomes dull, the sensible mind and natural optimism give hope for revival of the former union. And if the similar aspiration is mutual, and the future difficulties do not frighten, then it is worth taking a number of steps which every day would bring closer to updating and strengthening of the reeled relations.
Instruction
1. Attempt to forget everything. The most difficult and, perhaps, an exigeant stage, but without which all further attempts to come to the former relations are senseless.
2. Forgiveness. Not less sensitive and burdensome issue if any of partners really made an unworthy act, and a gap occurred for the serious and powerful reason.
3. Analysis of own behavior. Behind extremely rare exception, both partners are related to a rupture of the union. And having tried to appease anger, indignation and other emotions, it is worth looking passionlessly at a situation, to analyze the events preceding a quarrel, to estimate own mistakes, to try to rise mentally to the place of the opponent. Certainly, this stage can be accompanied by difficulties of objective understanding of events therefore consultation of the experienced psychologist can appear useful.
4. Readiness for changes. Unfortunately, full eradication of sad memoirs is impossible, and it is necessary to be ready to the fact that the relations never will be former any more. To understanding of this fact it is necessary to reconcile, as to inevitable. And all attempts of restoration of the union have to be made with a clear idea that even full reconciliation and forgiveness will not be able to return relationship into place. As well as twice enter to one course is impossible, and it is impossible to construct the same union twice.
5. Updating. Having admitted the fact of changes, it is worth working over that they, finally, were positive. And the new union will need more than ever active support at the first stage. During this period the joint trip to romantic places, rest in a privacy from all that would remind of former hostility will become good feed to the new relations. Even the ordinary renovation in the house with change of a situation and color scale can become freshen a stream in the relations of the reunited couple.
6. Routine. And here when splashes in both negative, and positive emotions ceased, it is very useful to return to everyday efforts which will not allow thoughts to wander aimlessly on secluded corners of bitter memory.