Loss of the family member, friend or even pet is one of the heaviest emotional experiences through which there passes a person. The letter with condolences is one of ways though a little to help someone to have hard times. The attempt to write such letter can be very difficult, you can feel confusion and awkwardness, without knowing what exactly to tell the one who endures so shattering grief. Nevertheless, even in such delicate business, there is advice which will help you to collect the thoughts and to avoid obvious mistakes.
It is required to you
- Handle
- Sheet of paper
- Sincere feelings
Instruction
1. Do not postpone writing of the letter with condolences for a long time. If you did not manage to express condolences within two weeks after the tragic event, then already and to you it is not necessary to undertake it.
2. Be short. When someone endures so heavy event, hardly it will have forces to read the long sorry messages.
3. You should not be excessively eloquent. Emotional support, but not a literary form in which you express it is important. The one who grieves can just not understand about what you if the letter is written too in a flowery style.
4. Be convinced of what you know beyond doubt as the name and the dead's middle name is written. If you confuse something, it will be an offensive and inexcusable mistake.
5. Begin your letter with that you learned about loss and what feelings in you were caused by this news. It is not necessary to write that you represent what now tests grieving even if you already endured similar experience. A grief for everyone this deeply personal experience. Write better "I cannot imagine what you should pass now through".
6. Offer the help, but only in something concrete. The person crushed by a grief will hardly be able just to think of what help he needs, but if you offer something necessary, it will be simpler to it to think over your offer.
7. If to you is what to remember left, you can write couple of lines about what it was. Sometimes it becomes slightly easier for people when they just see a name of darling, know that about it is mute with warmth still someone remembers.
8. Finish the letter with the sincere condolences and hope that time will be able though a little to dull pain which is felt by the addressee.