The family is not only accommodation of two spouses in one territory, but also ability to listen, hear and agree. That very big rarity in present time.
To start an ideal family or brought closer to an ideal, it is necessary many efforts both the husband and wives, and their relatives. There are a lot of situations and cases when young families break up because of intervention of the senior generation. Grandmothers and mothers learn the "correct" life youth, disregarding what not for all their "correctness" is acceptable. In this case it is necessary to treat as much as possible tactfully and loyally new relatives. Not to heat a situation from the very beginning, it is necessary to look for compromises.
After the wedding the life which it was not close earlier begins. To meet and live together, these are very different concepts. Being round the clock under the same roof with parents, it is necessary to respect also their opinion, and not just the husband (wife). It is much simpler to begin family life separately.
You should not enter the conflict, there is always an exit and as it was written above – it is necessary to look for compromises. To any person, there is an approach, it is only necessary to find it. But also it is impossible to allow "to push around". It is worth at once letting know that you are adults and you can resolve some issues (problems). It is necessary to express the opinion, but so that to offend nobody.
At first all couples quarrel, get used to each other and anew get acquainted. Learn habits, preferences in food and a daily routine, prior to a wedding everyone had it the, and now the general. Far from parents it is easier to get used to a role of the husband and wife. At once the experience of family life is gathered, but the stranger is not tried on.
That new relatives loved you, it is desirable to invite them on a visit, but not to wait until that come. To celebrate holidays together, to go to picnics or just a tea drinking. It is possible to ask council even if it also is not necessary to you. Then parents will know that they need them and respect, and will climb less with unnecessary lectures.
As for parents, they need to realize too that their child grew up also at it the family. To respect and support his opinion and acts.
With the birth of the kid of the spouse try on a role and parents that in turn fastens marriage even more. Obligations for the house should be divided among themselves as it is heavy to young mother of one to cope with everything. Often fathers do not realize all gravity of a situation and think that it is easy to look after the baby what very much are mistaken in. In that case it is possible to organize a revolution, having left for a while the father with the child, and most to go to salon or just on shops. Two, three hours are quite enough in order that in the future the husband helped about the house and did not saw for not finished washing ware or the untidy house.
Sleepless nights influence mentality therefore do not forget about rest and do fasting days, having left the kid to the same grandmothers and grandfathers, they will only be glad.
It is much heavier to keep family, than to destroy it. Do not look for simple exits separately, overcome difficult together, you love each other, you appreciate and respect.