What to tell to the girl at the first meeting?
So far as the question is raised so, it means that you exchanged phones, and she agreed with you to meet. Similar succession of events already has to raise your moral self-assessment. But you are right, it - only the first step on an abrupt and high ladder of creation of the relations. Now you should be prepared for the following and to think of what to tell to the girl on an appointment – so that this appointment was not the first and the last.
Actually that for a conversation with the girl the same set, as well as for a conversation with the man – just they, these subjects, a bit differents. Here to you lifesavers: movies, theater productions, new books or publications, just some actions and events of your city.
Will you tell that you are interested in it in nothing, and in it understand nothing? I allow it. But you asked a question not about what is easier, and about what it is better to tell to the girl at a meeting, and I answer you this question - irrespective of, it is pleasant or you do not like the answer. Yes, you should look at your first meeting as the examination-paper at which to you suggest to choose one of free subjects for a conversation with the girl and for which you need to be prepared. Read booklets, posters, short reviews – everything that can clear somehow to you a subject of future conversation. Also do not forget what we spoke in the previous material about: confusion at your first meeting will be experienced not only by you, but also it. Therefore if you on something will stumble – it with pleasure will help you.
Read, please, the following recognition:
Before going on our first meeting, I thought over in advance subjects about which with it I will speak, and in the beginning everything went perfectly. But at some point I suddenly blocked. In the head there was a full emptiness, and I could not find any word. Several minutes both of us were silent, in the sheer confusion. After all, I told: You know, in my opinion, jammed me. I do not know what still to speak to me about. Think up something, otherwise you will lose me forever! I knew that it is a foolish template, the attack from some movie, but she, nevertheless, burst out laughing. After that to both of us it became more free.
How still to help itself to find subjects for a conversation with the girl?
And now I want to share with you one secret. There is a way which will allow you to understand unmistakably not only what it is necessary to tell to any girl on the first appointment, but also what it is possible to tell to each girl at any meeting in general. Famous Carnegie told that we consider the most interesting interlocutor that person who speaks with us not about himself, and about ourselves. In other words, the best subjects for a conversation with the girl are subjects about her! You will tell: But I do not know it at all! In it a secret about which I mentioned above also hides.
Do not puzzle how to you to understand and understand that it is necessary to speak to the girl - instead ask her questions! About her, about her family, in what she likes to be engaged also what she hates to do.
Any girl will not begin to do secrets from this whether it is pleasant to it to go to some trainings to the gym or she prefers to be evening at the TV or the book. She will quietly answer a question of whether it has brothers or sisters, whether still her grandmothers and grandfathers are alive. Most likely, and most it will be pleasant to it to tell that at their place there is some shaggy chetveronozhka, an aquarium with small fishes or couple of budgerigars …
However, the similarity of cross-questioning is meant that you will ask the questions attentively and delicately, but not to carry out. You understand now that you can perfectly learn subjects for a conversation with any girl from the girl.
Than the method of questions is good? The fact that you know the person better – so, you facilitate the further communication with it.
What it is impossible to tell to the girl?
Do not mention at the girl the acquaintances (former or real) a female and furthermore, you do not carry out between them comparisons. Remarks of type: My acquaintance has same boots, only black color or And my colleague is cut as well as you will not delight your girl at all and treat what it is impossible to tell to the girl neither at the beginning of acquaintance, nor throughout it. Messages that yesterday robbed your neighbors your friend broke a hand at a training or to you the account came to light which you are not able to pay, we enter in the category of what absolutely you should not tell to the girl too.
In general, with a subject of money be quite careful. Statements from a series: I would lead you in this restaurant, but I have no such money! or I would have money where we only with you would not go! is a red rag for a bull. Or, otherwise, - phrases which cannot be spoken to the girl even under the threat of an execution (under a condition, of course, that you do not want to lose this girl – strongly and for a long time). Be sure: the girl will quite understand where you are able to invite her now and where you will be able to invite her in several years – and that provided that you will find under an apple-tree in a garden the trunk hidden there by the dispossessed great-great-grandfather. She will also understand soon as far as you is generous or, on the contrary, it is avaricious.
Besides complaints to lack of money, without excess thoughts it is necessary to carry those which comment on her appearance to phrases which cannot be spoken to the girl under no circumstances. Namely: In blue it is much better for you, This lipstick to you does not go at all, From your spirits the head can ache …
I perfectly understand that you will never tell the girl all above-mentioned, and in such form. Exaggeration was required to me to explain that everything, written above, the girl cannot speak even gently and gently and even for fun.
What to tell to the girl in a bed?
If we so long argued that it is necessary and what should not be spoken to the girl on an appointment, we especially need to deal with what is possible and what cannot be spoken to the girl in a bed. Psychologists explain to us that they in candy under the name sex of the woman appreciate a beautiful, fascinating wrapper much more from words in which the man is capable (or it is not capable) to wrap this candy. Do you remember the secret mentioned above? Yes, that it is necessary to ask the girl as much as possible questions of her. Well and so. If you followed this advice, you will have no ambiguities on the fact that to speak to the girl in a bed. Speak with it about what she pleasantly and wants to speak about! Quite so her subconsciousness will include you in the list of those people, concepts and feelings which give it joy and pleasure.
About compliments
I expect your question. You are right - we never pronounced the words compliment! They not in fashion, from them are not present any I pound, is uninteresting to girls them to listen? Still as it is interesting, still what big sense, and still as be fashionable!
The French young men study at classes in etiquette to how in the same evening in nine various ways to express to the girl a compliment concerning her hat. It is difficult to imagine what quantity of ways they, in that case, reserve for eyes or lips.
In other words, you see that pleasant it is possible to speak to the girl in any situation, in any occasion, and not once. Compliments remained and continue to remain the most safe subjects for a conversation with the girl. Try to remember it when next time you are driven again into the deadlock by a thought of what to tell to the girl at a meeting.