""There is no love without jealousy and there is no jealousy without love"" — Violetta Viglijas sang once. It is possible to argue with the famous singer.... The jealousy can destroy love easily. She can destroy any attachment on a root. From where ""do legs"" at this feeling grow? And what it can turn back for the relations?
A certain quantity of jealousy meets in any relations. When the person loves someone, he does not want to share a subject of the adoration with anybody. And it is normal. All people in soul there are a little owners. When on the horizon there is a potential competitor or the competitor, both partners can be afraid to lose the half. From there are also fears involving such destructive feeling. Nevertheless, when the first sprouts of mistrust creep in in soul, it is worth controlling carefully itself not to allow them to dominate over you. If to give in to them, the jealousy will become dangerous. And over time will develop into pathology at all. What distinguishes painful jealousy?
Often there is it from the fact that the man lacks self-confidence. He is insufficiently good in own eyes, does not appreciate himself and does not respect. Therefore cannot get off a mind that will forever lose the darling's heart, once she meets someone better and more worthy. From there is a discomfort and aggression which are looking for an exit and a discharge. Very often there are flashes of jealousy and anger which are followed by insults of the passion, quarrels and fights. Quite often on this soil many marriages break up.
Sometimes the jealousy of the partner has so pathological character that becomes the disease called "Othello's syndrome". The patient suspects the partner of many treacheries, constantly convicts him of something, checks telephone communications and controls an exit from the house. In extreme cases he employs detectives to whom he pays for tracking the beloved. All appeals to rationality are in that case nullified. The sick person cannot explain that he is not right. Usually the people abusing alcohol suffer from ""Othello's syndrome"" therefore the paranoid jealousy often goes hand in hand with alcoholism.
It is shown in constant fear. The girl is afraid that she can lose the partner in his absence — at work, in shop, the park, movie theater... The notion of compulsion that the partner will meet someone more attractive is followed by total absence of trust to the elect. The woman lives ""ike a cat on a hot tin roof"": she also suffers and exhausts darling the eternal suspiciousness. The relations which were once pleasant for both turn into the real nightmare...
1. Never and under any pretext organize public quarrels! Try to be attractive to the partner better, surprise him, give for him a small gift.
2. If you feel that your partner finds for you less time, than earlier, try to find the reason of change of his behavior. Perhaps, he is overloaded with daily affairs and work. It not necessarily has to be sign of treason.
3. Enjoy that your satellite is pleasant to someone else. It means that it is very attractive. And you were lucky that it chose you from one thousand possible options.
4. Remember that the painful jealousy results from a low and unstable self-assessment. Trust yourself and the elect, listen to the heart. And then in it there will be a place only for love.