Even the most beloved relatives can become importunate in some questions. The behavior they sometimes put in an awkward situation: there is no wish to be sharp, but there came the moment when you decided to refuse to them something. How to make it?
Instruction
1. Call relatives on straight talk. Show the greatest possible politeness and sense of tact. It is not necessary to start the conflict the first. Very quietly explain them the reasons of the refusal. Consider arguments in advance. Do not forget that before you dear people. Even if for some reason you do not feel love for them. Show the tractability, desire to reach compromise. Only at the same time do not hand over positions. You will always manage to begin ""war"", but it will not solve problems, and for certain will create new. Perhaps, you that's right! will understand will also cease to impose any inconvenient circumstances. The main thing, think that it is more important for you: it is simple to refuse something or also to preserve the peace at the same time.
2. If the attempt of peace talks was not estimated, then it is necessary to show determination and to tell firm ""no"". For example, when relatives arise on a visit, and you know their habit to be late for a long time. Here the choice is small: or you find forces ""to knock a fist on a table"", or have patience and, having forgotten about habitual life, wait for them departure. Though it is possible just to compose that the urgent business trip is necessary. But such way - a bad way out. Someone from mutual friends can spill the beans that in a trip you do not gather. Then it is necessary to redden because of deception.
3. At long ago the fueled tension, it is possible to refuse also by phone. First, such act will reduce awkwardness. Secondly, will facilitate a dispute - without seeing the interlocutor, it is simpler to keep calm. Besides, at mutual coldness, nobody will be surprised to such behavior. Remember, can there were cases when the family too not in the best way treated you. The forgotten emotions will help to revive feeling of injustice, and proper words will come. Only you do not stir all old offenses, differently instead of polite refusal, it is possible to tell a lot of superfluous and to acquire enemies.