In our hasty century it is difficult to people to find true friends. More often acquaintances, colleagues, neighbors, friends. And to find the true friend, as in movies and books, harder and harder. Sometimes it seems that search is complete, but it is difficult to know for certain. It is important to remember what qualities true friends have to have and estimate the acquaintances in these parameters.
Instruction
1. Mutual understanding. You do not have need to ask the question "How Are You Doing?", you learned to tell mood from one face of the friend. When it has a bad mood, and most is already sad. And all pleasures become the general, and the mood is lightened for happiness of another.
2. No lie and hypocrisy between true friends can be. Without trust such relations will collapse therefore it is so important to tell the truth always. Even if it is offensive, the friend will report it softly, but without excess lies. On such person it is possible to rely and be sure of his honesty.
3. Disinterestedness. For the true friend there is no question "And What You to Me for It Will Make?". Because an opportunity to help the friend already in joy. Nobody looks for benefits and tries to use other person. In financial questions there is an ease too – the debt is given with all the heart, and do not remind of it at each meeting.
4. Devotion. The true friend will not refuse you if it is necessary to choose somebody's part. Even if you will have a losing party, he will support and will be near. He will not cancel a meeting with you to spend time with other people.
5. Forgiveness. Even if there are disputes and disagreements turning into scandal in true friendship the truce will always come. There is no such situation which could set by the ears such close people.
6. Support. At the difficult vital moments it is not necessary to be alone, to try to cope independently with all troubles. Always it is possible to address the friend, and even if he will not be able to help then will support at a difficult moment. At the same time will give support sincere, without gloating and feeling of own superiority.
7. Acceptance with all shortcomings. There are no ideal people, and the true friend can have bad traits of character or bad habits too. But it does not prevent friendship, mutual understanding helps to reconcile to them. Anyway all have pluses and minuses, and it is necessary to accept the person it what he is.
8. Ability to listen. During the conversation with the true friend the interest is felt. He not just waits for the moment when itself is able to express. Sincere participation in your affairs and problems help to feel ease in communication. A simple conversation can be enough.
9. Common interests and subjects for a conversation. It is difficult to be on friendly terms with the person if there is no hobby which connects you. It is possible to talk to the true friend on different subjects and will never bore. And let your opinion on this question or completely opposite does not coincide, but you like to talk to him.