Excessive constraint can become the reason of uncomfortable private life, a professional implementation failure. It is difficult to find a common language with the clamped and diffident person.
To overcome fears
If the young man experiences difficulties at acquaintance to girls, he is afraid to approach and start talking the first, does not know how it is correct to behave not to frighten off the lady, means all these fears it is necessary to overcome. The earlier the young man will make it, the time less missed will be.
Constraint appears from behind internal complexes which deeply sit in the person. The most part from them originates in the far childhood. Complexes can arise concerning appearance, concerning some physical deviations or because of suggestion by peers that the young man not such as all.
It is necessary to limit or at all to stop communication with people who impose complexes and constantly press on sore points.
Places for acquaintance
To overcome the fear once and for all, it is necessary to feel taste of a victory. The victory will be that acquaintance to the girl took place successfully, the relations were entered. It is necessary to choose the most crowded place to get acquainted. It can be shopping center, public transport, the city square. The atmosphere in night or entertaining club promotes communication of strangers. The person as much as possible relaxes, opens and is ready to dialogue. Moreover, if the guy is in a circle of the young companions, he behaves more relaxedly because he feels support of a friendly shoulder.
Virtual communication
If the young man hesitates to approach and start talking personally to the girl, he is able to do it virtually. You should not forget about dating sites, about social networks. Now it is one of the most widespread ways of acquaintance which develops then into the relations and in the subsequent into marriage. During communication with strangers the person can behave unnaturally, in additives a bigger stiff is scared by an unusual situation, views from outside. And at home it is possible to sit down at a cozy workplace and to move off in searches of the narrowed. Only you should not delay with virtual communication. It is necessary to organize a meeting in time or to exchange phone numbers. After communication on a dating site will already easier find subjects for a talk. Such communication will help to draw initial conclusions on the person.
It is necessary to designate a circle of common interests, to think over the course of a meeting and the first appointment will not seem to such disturbing.
It is possible to find the girl among the friends, schoolmates. The acquaintance stage here is not required any more, it is possible to pass to approach at once. It will be required to study several rules of seduction. Intensive companionship, support can soon pour out in great and deep feelings. Even if the first experience on overcoming the shyness became bad, it is important not to stop and to work further on itself.