Despite everywhere popular belief that the stamp changes nothing, very often later the minimum time after the wedding in young family problems begin.
Wedding – fine and very important event in life of any person. But often life after this festival does not meet expectations of newly married at all. Marriage is a new step of the relations, it is important to understand that spouses should divide not only joy, but also troubles and efforts.
Marriage can fall a victim of life
The most unpleasant sphere which can destroy young marriage especially if spouses had no long-term experience of joint life, is, of course, life. Ideally it is necessary to discuss various problems in advance, to agree about uniform distribution of household chores (if the initiative of a similar conversation proceeds from the young wife, it is very important to it not to press the husband in the course of discussion not to begin family life with scandal). You should not create illusions if a month later after the beginning of joint life in the house a mess, linen is unwashed also ware it is not washed, so you badly agreed. If the man mutters on a disorder, but for its elimination does nothing, suggest it to employ the coming housemaid. There will be enough high-quality cleaning of times a week at the beginning. Such option will strike the budget slightly, and it will be much simpler to keep order.
Improve the relations with the spouse's relatives. It will help to smooth things over in the long term.
Respect - a key to ideal marriage
Never keep count. The best phrase to start a serious quarrel, than "you are to me in debt because I married you", still did not think up. Soften corners and turns. Instead of uncompromising "you have to" would use "I very much wanted". At the same time it is very important to state the wishes to the spouse, only to do it in an acceptable form. Do not hide serious secrets from the spouse. Obviously, each person has to have the, isolated life, but it should not harm life joint. If you have any problems, share them with the second half. Otherwise they can undermine your marriage imperceptibly for you.
You give gifts each other not only on holidays. The more romantics in your relations after the wedding, the better.
Find new options to express the feelings. Do not allow the marriage to become a monotonous habit. After the wedding the young people have a stable confidence in each other. The attention which was paid to darling or darling before is displaced on other parties life. It is normal process. The similar situation does not mean that your love passed. Simply very much it is important to remember how it was before marriage, to organize surprises, celebrations, romantic dinners. At least sometimes in the evenings to come off a favourite sofa or a bed and to spend time in habitual and favourite cafes. Never demand that your darling refused communication with friends for the sake of you. On the contrary, try to make "personal" friends friends of the family. So you will be able to meet frequently them, will not lose touch. It is very important as young people sometimes form a tight system after the wedding, and tight systems very badly develop.