Marriage is the conscious decision, desire of two people to pass a course of life hand in hand both in a grief, and in joy. But life brings the, only to it clear, amendments. Unjustified hopes, treacheries and unfaithfulness, gossips of relatives - there is a lot of reasons for a divorce.
Crisis of the first year of marriage
Probably, one of the most difficult stages in life of newlyweds - the first year of accommodation in common. In fact everyone buys a pig in a poke. It is the grinding in period when young people recognize each other as it is possible closer. Are found and come up outside of difference of opinion, habits, value reference points. At this time desire to change, correct the partner, to impose the attitude is shown.
As a rule, this crisis it is impossible to avoid. Through it there pass all married couples. It is a peculiar check on durability of desire of spouses to create a new cell of society.
It is the most dangerous period - it is fraught with the internal conflict. Each of partners is already created as the personality, but for mutual comfort it is necessary to go on compromises, to change and adapt for the good of family.
Crisis of three years
For in common lived several years there are pretty stable family relations. After long accommodation side by side people begin to be tired from each other: sex does not bring former pleasure any more, everyday life and holidays become monotonous and cyclic.
You learn to balance: it is important to agree and reach compromise with the partner, to understand what both of you want from joint life and to begin to realize desires, despite of the arising difficulties.
Social crisis of seven years
Of course, seven years - figure conditional. Crisis can happen and much later. Its essence consists in a distance of spouses from each other. As a rule, by then there are already children, both partners were socially created: practically all tasks both in family life, and in the sphere of self-realization are reached and realized. Or everything went wrong way, without meeting expectations which were cultivated in soul at earlier stages of marriage. The relations reach a deadlock. It is a new round in a whirlpool of monotony and monotony.
Crisis of twenty years, or syndrome of the become empty nest
So, children grew up, they have the life, it is not necessary to care for them more, i.e. the meaning of the last years of life is lost.
At this particular time women try to look younger, men start affairs and affairs with very young mistresses.
Common interests come to an end, everyone lives life, trying to fill the formed emptiness. It is difficult to live together again, paying attention only each other, not being distracted by external factors. At this stage it is necessary to spend much time with the spouse, without being fenced off by various hobbies, household chores and problems at work.