The "tame" child – it the concept is familiar to each parent. If to mom or dad it is necessary to hear only about such kid from acquaintances – they envy themselves. And if days and nights turned into carrying the child on hands – it already became a problem.
The carrying period on hands of kids takes, on average, 1 year. As soon as the child starts walking independently – he does not need additional resources of movement in the form of mother's and father's hands any more. But how to be about one year? To consider some features of children of this age.
Why the child asks on hands
What most all interests the child during this period? World. Even if still limited by walls of own room. Agree, it is very convenient: to ask to mom on hands and to specify by a finger in what direction to move further for knowledge surrounding. From time to time it is possible to give it such opportunity, as soon as the kid will learn to creep, it will climb already itself moreover and everywhere there where it is not necessary.
The greatest complexity is brought by falling asleep. Here where and so exhausted parents lose the remains of the last forces forced to rock to sleep it and at night. Of course, easy rocking promotes falling asleep. As an alternative the bed with the pendular mechanism can serve. Special fastening will help to record a bed after the child fell asleep. Often happens so that kid it is necessary to rock to sleep after feeding. And he not really joyfully perceives desire of mom to move away him from a breast. Then be near it: you lie or, as a last resort, stand, holding on hands, but you do not go, shaking it. Let the child get used that mom and rockings is not synonyms. If the kid already manual, then gradually replace carrying on hands with stay together with it. Desire to stay on hands is frequent it is caused by fear that mom left (and for the child of the first months of life mom who is in the neighboring room is a disturbing signal. I do not see mom – means, there is no mom: left far and it is unknown when returns). Read it books, sing songs or just be engaged in a household in sight of the kid.
To learn to understand the child without words
Now it is considered that manual the child becomes with an ulterior motive: it is extremely important to it to declare itself. The reasons can be various: premature child, gripes, in general any indisposition. Even hunger can be the cause. Mame seems that the kid is capricious, and he just lacks milk, and it would be time to finish feeding mix. There is nothing surprisingly that very few people from children want to lie quietly alone in a bed. Thus, caring for the kid, you remember golden mean. Maternal and fatherly heart will prompt when and for what time of the kid it is worth taking on hands.