Education of children - responsible and often hard business. Sometimes fatigue and impatience pour out in irritability and rigid words. But it is necessary to remember that your impulsive behavior can affect psychological and mental state of the child in the future. Therefore it is necessary to learn to control the emotions.
Instruction
1. If you feel that you are angry and just about will break on the child, give yourself a pause - leave the room for a couple of minutes (if it is possible) or just think of something another. So you will give yourself time to cool down and, perhaps, will understand that you are angry because of a trifle.
2. Try to understand what moves the child. Put yourself on its place. Perhaps, it seems to you that it does something to you to spite, but hardly it so. Perhaps, he does not know what behavior from it is wanted, or seeks to draw your attention.
3. Instead of shouting and swearing, try to explain quietly (but it is sure) to the child what is not pleasant to you and why. It is important that the child clearly saw relationships of cause and effect between the behavior and your reactions. Because if he will not understand the reason of your discontent, you can achieve the return result.
4. Remind yourself more often of how it is important to be an example for children, they always copy adults, especially parents. Substantially depends on you what your child will grow up and as he will bring up then your grandchildren.
5. Keep a diary. If you did not manage to restrain and you shouted at the child, write down and analyze the emotions. Perhaps, you are surprised, having understood what in fact so angered you. This understanding can be unexpected. It will also help over time to cease to break.
6. You learn to approach more consciously that, what are you doing and you speak. Many every day I act as got used, even without noticing it. When people open the same door day by day, they do it automatically. But in this case the created reflex is useful that it is not always possible to tell about human communication. The behavior stereotype effective in one situation can be harmful in another. Be flexible. Try to experience that is necessary for your child at present.
7. Have a rest. If you young mom (or dad), try to get enough sleep. Periodically distract from education of children, have a rest, walk, switch to other classes. It will help you to see more quietly things and to communicate with the child without excess unpleasant emotions.
8. Try to read psychological literature on education of children. Perhaps, you will open for yourself some things which will make this process simpler, and the behavior of the child is more clear for you.