Aged from 1.5 when the child becomes mobile and active, easily there are conflict situations between the adult and the child. Before the child such amazing and unknown world opens. Thirst of researches and prank of the kid push parents constantly him to control. Or on the contrary to ignore the violent interests of the child. But, it is necessary to the child in any ways to achieve what he so is eager for - whims and hysterics begin. How it is possible to cope with children's whims and whether it is necessary to cope with them?
Instruction
1. Understand, your kid is capricious not because of harm. Simply in a different way still it is difficult to it to express the emotions. Do not allow to shout long to the kid, nervous system of the child still unripe, and he will not be able to stop. He will shout to blue in the face, though itself does not remember any more what so upset him.
2. Do not punish the kid for his whims. It not only not an effective way to cope with them, but also harmful. Punishment in understanding of the child means only one that it "is not loved". You for the kid – everything, and such negative will be of you regarded as treachery.
3. You do not shame the child. The kid understands that he "bad also is guilty", here only in what – yet does not understand. It is still too small.
4. You should not indulge the child's hysterics. Distract the baby – kids very quickly can switch and distract. This feature of children should using in the educational purposes. Switch its attention to a cat at a window, or florets on the street – such simple things magically affect the child. Everything is interesting to it! Take the kid on hands and calm – to him very important to feel as darling and to feel your heat.
5. Introduce the rule in the family and adhere to it: on each yours it "is impossible" - one has to be "possible". For example, it is impossible to break toys, but it is possible to feed a cat. Dream up.
6. If your distracting maneuvers do not work, go for a while to other room. Leave for a while the kid, let's it shout much. Try to calm down and distract. Most likely, your kid will understand that the hysterics does not work and itself will come running to be reconciled to mom. But do not forget that the child can itself and not calm down therefore in 3-5 minutes return and try to distract the capricious child again.
7. Define accurately for yourself the list it "is impossible" and strictly adhere to it. Under no circumstances do not violate these rules. If you were tired, it is not an occasion to allow to do today what could not be done yesterday.
8. Praise the kid, encourage him for good acts. Thus, at him the self-assessment is formed and raises. And the reasons for whims will become less.
9. Be engaged together with the child in household daily chores. It will help it to learn to solve problems independently.
10. If the kid in your family feels like the personality – whims will gradually decrease or in general will stop.