In process of growing the child changes, it is important to manage to keep with it trusting relationship, despite everything. How not to become the enemy to the child?
Behave naturally, showing sincere readiness to support and help. "To represent" nothing the main thing, teenagers, as well as children, very sharply feel any falseness, affectedness in the relations. The most important is to keep trusting relationship with the teenager, only then he will let you into the secrets and problems, and you in turn will be able to support him in time, to help and to warn in due time against mistakes.
Be ready to adapt to the changing situation
The child grows, changes, he is not obliged to be "convenient" for you – to preserve everything or to return on the level of younger school not to turn out. In process of growing of the child have to change and your relations, you learn to respect his personality, opinions and views, welcome his independence and an initiative in allowable limits.
You" do not "press" the authority, and become an example for imitation
Time of unconditional authority and belief in "infallibility" of parents ended. The bans, punishments and notations will not help "it is better to make the child", and will only incite him against you. The teenager enough crucially estimates the parents, noticing including negative qualities. You – any more not that ideal image of the best dad or the best and only mom in the world – the teenager sees in you the person from it both positive, and negative qualities, pays attention not to words, and to specific actions. Therefore, try to be an example for imitation. Nothing is capable to make such powerful pedagogical impact on the child as a positive example of parents, - their ability to resolve the conflicts, to come to the rescue at a difficult moment, councils in any area, a wide range of interests and education.
Be able to keep optimism and sense of humour in any situation
It will remove excessive psychological stress, will allow to relieve the tension and to make your communication more positive and open. Seeing the world in light tones, you share this look with the teenager – so, he to learn to cope with the impulsiveness, conflictness, differences of mood, and the teenage age to become for it not difficult, but age of new opening and opportunities!