The baby has a crying - the only way to draw attention to themselves. Therefore if the kid is hungry or he needs to change a diaper he begins to cry to draw attention of adults to the problem. At this stage of growing the crying is the natural means of communication with the world around. And what to do when the child grows up? How to disaccustom him to cry?
It is required to you
- consultation of the children's psychologist
Instruction
1. Do not cultivate desire to draw attention by means of crying in the child. When the child is already capable to explain in words that it is necessary for him - communicate with him on it, language, already new to it. Many mothers ignore verbal requests of the child, then he, naturally, begins to sob at the top of the voice, so to speak, tries already checked ways to reach mom. And only then mom pays attention to him, thus, the belief is fixed in consciousness of the child that crying - a great way to receive what he wants. Therefore surely listen to the child when he about something asks. Even if you cannot satisfy its request - quietly explain to the kid in words why you cannot take a walk still now, and you will go home. Or why you do not buy him this toy right now, and will make it tomorrow. In other words, do not provoke crying of the child.
2. Firmly you speak to the sobbing kid who came to you with a request that you will help him only when he ceases to cry. Usually children what character or temperament they did not possess listen and cease to cry. And continuous practice of such communication disaccustoms them to cry in general. The child begins to look at crying, as at an unnecessary stage of communication with parents. He understands - listen to me when I begin to speak at once. And the problems connected with infinite hysterics disappear by itself. There is a new "adult" way of communication - a conversation.
3. Caress the kid, be attentive to him. For many children of a hysterics with tears - only a way to get parental approval. Therefore give to the kid the attention for nothing. Then it should not suit a flood from tears to receive the simplest and natural that he has to receive - your love. Do not miss an opportunity to spend with it free time. Cancel "adult" affairs for the sake of it. Only this way he will understand that you need it also, as well as it you.
4. Ask the child why dad never cries? Let the kid will reflect over it. The father is authority on family, especially for boys. Let the father will talk to the son about why you should not advertize the emotions, upsetting mom and being upset most.