Treason to darling, as a rule, causes a lot of pain and sufferings. But if you want to forgive the traitor, look for ways to justify his behavior, it is worth taking the incident reasons into account. Perhaps, he or she did not resist, having fallen a victim of hormonal splash or too large number of the drunk alcoholic drinks and made not spiritual treason, but physical.
In what difference of physical treason from spiritual?
Treason, as well as many other phenomena, can have several versions – in particular, it can be divided into physical and spiritual. Spiritual treason is called when it is the result of great love of the person who betrayed you for his mistress or the lover. You appear out of work. That is before the person loving you loses to you any feelings, he has new object of love which means to it much more now, than you.
The new love can be long and short-term, here everything depends on a specific situation. There are many cases when people found the happiness in the marriages second, third, etc., having divorced the previous partners. It is a lot of also the return situations when, having taken banal hobby for love of all the life, people with own hand pulled down the families and as a result there were some. In this case maybe one more, happier outcome: the acquired husband or the adulteress, having been disappointed in the new love, return to the spouse or the spouse and continue to live together.
Physical treason is called in case it happens accidentally, without sublime feelings. For example, visit by the husband of the prostitute is physical treason as he does not feel to it love. Physical treason can happen for various reasons, as a rule, it is easier forgiven and quicker forgotten about it. But also such treachery of darling enough for destruction of family is frequent, here everything depends on each specific situation, outlook of an individual person, etc.
Whether it is possible to do without unfaithfulness?
If you love your second half, then the most reasonable the aspiration will not hurt her or him, not to disappoint the person, not to allow situations in which you should look for various justifications. Any treason, be it spiritual or physical, inflicts a lot of sincere suffering, and not only to the devoted person, but also the unfaithful spouse or the spouse. It is worth remembering also that if in your family there are children, they also very strongly suffer from the conflicts between parents. Many complexes, phobias and fears of the adult arise against the background of the psychoinjuring situations postponed at early age. Certainly, from splash in feelings and emotions nobody is insured, but try to remember that you are not free that there is a person to whom you promised fidelity and love. And then situations in which it is necessary to look for justifications and to carry out differentiation of unfaithfulness, just will not arise.