Communication with it of both parents is very important for harmonious development of the child. But if at the woman the maternal instinct, as a rule, is shown at once, then the man needs some time to feel the father. Help the husband to become the best father.
Instruction
1. At women the awakening of a maternal instinct is connected with powerful natural powers which change physiological processes of a female body, preparing it for childbirth and care for the baby. Within nine months in consciousness of future mother the image of her kid develops. The man observes all this process from outside, and its fatherly feelings are based on social, but not biological factors. Therefore begin "to bring up" the father from the husband even during pregnancy. Telling as your child develops, try to make the spouse the active participant of the events. You descend together on the first ultrasonography. Let future father the first will see sprouts of new life.
2. In a maternal womb the fruit can already hear, and he distinguishes a low timbre of a male voice more distinctly. Encourage the father to talk to a tummy, to sing songs, to read fairy tales. Prompt to the husband that it is not so important that he speaks, the voice which becomes for the kid to the family is important.
3. Try to emphasize the importance of a role of the father, express gratitude to the husband for participation. Together choose a dowry for the child, make shift in the children's room or the bedroom. Also joint visit of courses for future parents is very useful. If the spouse does not show due consideration yet, do not hurry to accuse him, state the concrete wishes concerning the help which is necessary for you.
4. After the birth of the child involve the father in care for the baby. Let it will take the kid, will bring a small bottle, will rise to it at night, descends with it on walk. Show how it is necessary to change a diaper, to bathe and swaddle the child. To establish relation of the father with the kid, in every possible way encourage the husband, assuring that he does everything correctly that it would be difficult for you without his participation.
5. When the emotional contact is come, can leave for a short time the father alone with the kid. The father can look after the baby not worse than mother. It strengthens family, well affects development of the child, fills the father with feeling of the true male pride. And valuable experience of communication with the kid at an early stage of development promotes that when the child grows up, between it and the father there will be "a strong thread" of deep trust of close people.