The shyness is rather acquired, than congenital trait of character of the person. It is formed at children's and youthful age mainly by society. The shyness can be shown in various life situations. The fact that the person too often thinks of how he looks from outside and that people around will think of him can serve as the reason for that. He just is afraid to declare himself as he feels fear to be someone derided. As a result, a large number of men have problems in communication with an opposite sex. These guys are clever, quite good themselves and are interesting in communication, but a problem that it is madly heavy to them even to start talking to the pleasant girl. And further there is a problem how to make a declaration of love to the girl if you hesitate also in further creation of the relations.
How to learn not to hesitate of girls?
- It is necessary to understand that the girl – not an alien being, but quite ordinary person. She has too alarms and fears, and first of all fear not to be pleasant to the man. The girl can experience constraint, too at the same time if she tells something not that, it will hardly cease to be pleasant to you.
- Communicate more with girls to whom the relation neutral. It is possible to improvise, use different approaches. It is not necessary to think that will think of you, in a conversation try to listen carefully to the interlocutor and to show politeness. The most important is to receive response, to overcome shyness and to understand that there is nothing terrible in a conversation.
- At each opportunity try to act on public. It increases self-confidence. It can be a usual toast which was heavy to force to be announced itself earlier. If the perfection in communication with public is reached, then the uncertainty in communication with girls will disappear in itself.
Since that moment when you begin to derive pleasure from any communication, it will be possible to judge that you overcame constraint on how many more at you became useful acquaintances and the quality of life in general improved.