The rudeness, according to one of versions, leads the existence from the bible character Ham who was one of three sons of the legendary builder of an ark of Nov. During intoxication of the father Ham behaved in the most disrespectful, boorish way that, in general, cost much to his descendant to Canaan. Bible times sank Into oblivion, and the rudeness remained. And today each person wishing to preserve the nerves and health has to know how to fight back the boor.
Instruction
1. Unfortunately, the boor can not always be put into place. Mister Dovlatov even claimed that the rudeness (and, therefore, and boors) in principle is invincible. It is sometimes better to replace the attitude towards rudeness and rude to preserve the nervous cages. It is worth suppressing splash in adrenaline and to think that the person others, incompetent, diffident and simply winning back on you complexes, the low status and "downtroddenness" is rude to you (remember at least sellers in inexpensive shops), lawlessness. You will understand that all insults which are now said by the boor have no to you personally the slightest relation and then are already free to choose whether to react to you to rudeness or just to leave the boor alone about by itself.
2. Ignoring – the simplest reaction. If you cannot change a situation, leave it or expel from it the boor – change the reactions. Take away the attention from the rude dealer or the chief, having turned it on something more esthetic. Count, for example, quantity of buttons on a blouse of the seller, amount of apples on a counter or something else. You see beautiful things.
3. Fill fog. In your address it is quite possible to respond to any boorish statement with one of phrases where the rudeness sticks as in the fenny swamp. For example: "Each person differs from another, lives differently, than another, is keen on other things, and differently learns the world, reacting to events in the ways which can differ from accepted at other people". Examples of application of this phrase it is possible to give a set. For example, the seller tries to get nasty with you, demanding not to touch his goods (it is admissible, tomatoes) hands. You can answer that in this world there is a huge number of people who are not able to determine ripeness of tomatoes only by their appearance. And you just treat such people.
4. If the rudeness oversteps any your limits – defend them. Strictly stop penetration on your territories phrases "it not in my rules", "this my personal record (beliefs, the principles) and to you could not be done here" and other. It is necessary to take, however, into account that the few people understand told from the first and to be ready to repeat in the second and third.
5. One more way of response to rudeness – humour. Find something ridiculous in the words of the boor. Let it will be a phrase, gesture, specifics of a situation. Laugh at found.