People meet, people fall in love … But happens so that the person whose subject of desire are you, absolutely is uninteresting to you. However, you cannot get up courage in any way and to report about it to it. Choose the most diplomatic way of refusal not to cause in the guy resentment or even flash of hatred in relation to you.
Instruction
1. Choose suitable time for a conversation. You can cause a lot of negative emotions, such as rage and rage if out of time you begin a conversation and will come "hot hand". You should not start a similar conversation if the young man is angry, it is angry, strongly tired after the unlucky working day or it has problems in the relations with friends. Your refusal can become the last straw which exhausted all patience, and all negative which is saved up by it under weight of problems will pour out on you. It is better to choose other time for a showdown. This important condition to refuse to the guy so that he did not take offense.
2. You should not rush to extremes. You are not rude and are not rude to the young man – it will only strengthen irritation from an unpleasant conversation, and there and before scandal nearby. You should not offend the person – he is not guilty that you were pleasant to it. In case the guy himself begins to be rude openly to you, it is worth damping his ardor in couple of rigid phrases – do not give yourself in offense from desire to seem tactful if the interlocutor does not understand cultural communication. It is undesirable to show excessive pity too. Having felt pity notes in your voice, the young man can grab them, as a lifebuoy, having decided that though you to it, but nevertheless have a small sympathy. Some men, knowing this property of female mentality, with despair in similar situations, begin to press frankly on feeling of pity, and even a maternal instinct to put you in an uncomfortable position and to deprive of an opportunity to refuse to it. Control the emotions during the conversation that the similar situation did not arise.
3. Explain to him that life does not come to an end, and light a wedge did not agree on you. The guy has to understand that besides you still there is a mass of girls who can become him worthy couple and cause in him not less sincere feelings and that it it is obligatory to meet the love. It is especially important to explain it to the admirer if he is young and confuses serious feeling with slight love. It will also help to minimize negative emotions from your refusal.