Of course, all of us understand, it is how important not to concentrate on unpleasant moments of life, to forget offenses and offenders. But, probably, are only units from us capable to follow always one of 10 precepts and to forgive really sincerely any insult, but not to think of how to revenge for the offense caused us.
How it is possible to revenge the person and whether it is worth doing it?
When it comes to the touched feelings very few people are capable to assess a situation adequately. Inside the hurricane of emotions and passions which being weaved into a close ball storms at this time, block all arguments of mind. At this moment when our mind cannot resist to disappointment and emotional pain, we think of how it would be good to revenge the person who forced to suffer, as much as possible cruelly. But, before starting development of the plan of response, let's understand whether it is worth entering a circle of mutual offenses and claims.
For a start, we will try to understand from where desire to sweep undertakes. We will be helped with it by a simple technique:
- Take a clean sheet of paper and list not less than 10 feelings which are caused in you by the act of the person which was so touched you. It will not be simple to make it, but it is necessary to pass this stage. So you will be able to understand sources of the emotions, and it is useful and in case you want both to revenge the person and to forgive him;
- After the list is ready, look on 3 its at the latest point, it also is that basic that trod on your corns. Let's consider on an example, let us assume, the last words on a leaf appear – feeling of injustice, humiliation and desire to burst into tears. What are these emotions united by? Of course, the fact that your self-assessment suffered. Thus, you just found "weak point" which forces you to think how obviously or imperceptibly to revenge the person.
Such easy way, you just defined what forced you to be nervous and worry. And you had choice – to continue revenge planning, or to forgive the offender and to be engaged in more useful affairs.
Plans to sweep. Cold mind and patience
If all of you decided that vengeance is the only exit, desired for you, then you remember the first rule of clever people which says that revenge is the dish which is served cold. Therefore, the first that you have to make, it to calm down and on the cold head to understand what opportunities for reduction of the plan in execution at you is. Let's say both of you are registered by VKontakte and can think how to revenge the bad person, using this social network. Or you have an opportunity, to think up the plan of retaliation, using that you work in one organization.
Now let's in details paint the plan what actions need to be made in order that your objective was achieved. After you record the idea on paper, postpone your developments, at least for a week. After this time, look at the plan, it is possible that it to you will not seem to such attractive. But, if desire to respond with blow to blow did not pass then check the idea for existence of "weak points", otherwise the effect of its application can be opposite.
Success, as making revenges
Anyway, before entering a vicious circle of revenge, remember that only our progress and prosperity are capable to cause envy and rage of people around. What less you will pay attention to the friend who offended you, the girlfriend or the colleague, more time will remain to those at you to become successful. And thereby and to revenge.
Not without reason all great people say that the best way to humiliate the person, it to become above it. Take care of the own life, work over a self-assessment, become higher, and those who offend you now will take offense.
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