It is difficult to realize that you are imposed to the person. Usually it remains imperceptible long time, but at some point at once clears up. You realize that your acquaintance did not answer the last ten calls, refused three times in a day the offer to walk and suspiciously it is always busy. Perhaps, he just tries to get rid of your persistence.
Understanding - the first step to disposal
For a start it is necessary to realize and accept the fact that you are persuasive. It is unpleasant to realize such things, but it is necessary. Remember how many times you call the same person in day? In a week? How often do you suggest to meet? And how many arrives answers? If these two figures strongly differ, maybe, you are too persuasive, and it frightens off from you people.
Work on yourself
At first it is necessary to control itself tightly. Pay attention to all attempts to be imposed to the person and keep. It is possible to write down it in a notebook from outside to look how many times you call the person.
Perceive the relations as a tennis match. You passed a ball to other person, now it is necessary to wait for reciprocal giving. It is not necessary to throw a ball one by one not to throw the person. It has to have an opportunity and desire to answer. You took a step (wrote the message, called, suggested to meet) and without pressure upon the interlocutor wait for the answer. It is necessary to occupy itself with something that there was no desire to contact other people. Learn to enjoy the society, and you will not be imposed to people around any more. Choose hobby which will be pleasant to you – books, movies, sewing, dances, learning languages, etc. It is possible to get rid of a habit to exasperate acquaintances with calls and SMS messages if to raise tariff cost. You should reduce communication or money will quickly end. When you learn to control yourself, it is possible to return an old tariff. Meet different people or expand a circle of contacts. If you are in great need in communication, it is possible not to be limited only to darling. Around there are always a lot of people who are eager for communication – your friends, parents, brothers, sisters and other relatives. It is possible to go to courses, to bring new acquaintances and to spend time with them. Then you distribute the attention to several people, and nobody will feel that you are imposed. Be more self-assured, lift a self-assessment. Sometimes people are imposed because are afraid that they differently will cease to communicate with them. Give to people freedom, learn to love and appreciate yourself. Remember that really close people wishing to communicate with you will look for meetings. Be not imposed and spend time with those who reach for you.